Where there's a will, there's a way! But curvy women have to be somewhat creative when it comes to using sex toys alone or with a partner. All of us fat women are built differently. And truthfully, it's because our curves are in different places which means plus-size lingerie manufacturers struggle with designing lingerie that fits us well.
Let me tell you a little bit about me first. I'm a fat girl. I tend to refer to myself as a curvy girl since I own a lingerie store called Curvy Girl Lingerie. But the word “fat” does not offend me. I know it offends some of you, so I'll stick with "Curvy Girl" for this article. I opened my plus-size lingerie store in San Jose in Oct. 2012 but I've been a business owner since 2003 and have spent the last 10 years of my life selling sex toys online and via our home pleasure parties that we facilitate all over the Bay Area.
Some bigger women cannot reach their clitoris easily. Some plus-size women have short arms and some curvy girls have a large lower tummy. Some curvy women have both short arms and a larger tummy so they can have difficulty reaching their own clitoris. But like I said in the beginning of my article: where there's a will there's a way! Here are the 10 best sex toys for curvy gals:
- The Hitachi Magic Wand. A "back" massager that plugs into the wall so there is no need to fuss around with batteries. It's a good 12 to 14" in length with a very powerful vibrating head. Women can use it with a partner and put it between them or you can lay it on your bed and lean up against it or lay down on it if you lay face down. (Get creative; use some pillows if you need to!)
- The Mystic Wand. The cordless version of the Hitachi Magic Wand. It takes 4 double AA batteries and it's super-quiet. It's a bit shorter at 8" but let me tell you: it will get the job done. Most women use it for clitorial and labial vibration but you can do whatever feels good to you.
- The Elise Noir 2. The LELO Elise Noir 2 has two motors in the tip and 2 in the base. Some rechargeable toys don't have enough vibration to get me all the way to a climax. This one has yummy silicone skin and lots of pulsing and escalating. It's also nice and slippery so if you want to try a position like reverse cowgirl - which is a GREAT positon for a curvy girl - it's long and slender enough that you can hold it on your clitoris or tickle his testicles with it while he's inside of you.
- The Soraya. Similar to the Elise but with a clitoral stimulator attached to the vibrating shaft. (Plus, like all LELO products, it's pretty and elegant.)
- The Fixsation. My friendsTiffany and her sister created a plus-size wearable vibrator that fits women size 18 to 22. You can wear it missionary-style, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy-style or any other way you like to get yours!
- The 5-speed bullet. As author and sex educator Virgie Tovar says: "A lot of plus-size women, myself included, have gorgeously voluptuous vulvas. Exciting news: chubbier vulvas with fuller outer labia are perfect for tucking smaller toys into! Just spread the lips a little, slip the vibrator against your clitoris, sit back (or, hell, go to the mall) and amaze yourself at how well the toy stays in place. This secret spot also ensures an almost-noiseless experience."
- The Lia Magic Wand. This toy has 10 speeds and is made with medical-grade silicone. I love how quiet it is and how much power there is in the tip. It's about 7" long so if you have a hard to reaching your clitoris, this will add a good 6" or 7" to your reach. If you wanted to get creative, insert the toy between your box springs and your mattress for doggy-style fun or slide it between the two of you when you're on your back.
Remember: there are no rules! If it feels good to you, go with it. Your body is so full of erogenous zones so let your imagination run wild. Insert it between your chubby inner thighs or massage your labia with the vibrators before you go straight for the clitoris. Just have fun and get down with your bad self!
Have other toys you know are great for big girls or curvy couples? Share here please.