Here's why you should pick up the damn phone and call him yourself!
One of the most frustrating things imaginable is waiting for someone to call you and start the conversation. What makes it even worse is when you like that person. But what's a woman to do? Isn't that how you play the game these days?
After all, men like to chase women, right? A woman should play hard to get. You don't want to come off as too interested. You want a man who takes initiative. So you have to just sit around constantly checking your phone waiting for him to make the next move, right?
Actually, no. Passively waiting around for a man to call you could actually be hurting your chances of having a great relationship. Let me explain...
1. Waiting for him to call is actually playing a mind game.
You probably don't like to think of yourself as the kind of person who plays games, but you might actually be doing just that by waiting for him to call you. By waiting for him to call or make the first move, you are essentially following an arbitrary set of rules (like men should be the one to innate things).
Following these rules is usually something that women do in order to manage their own anxiety about being seen as needy or desperate. In the end, the best way to avoid being seen as needy or desperate is to simply not be needy or desperate. You can call a man any time at all without looking needy or desperate when you are perfectly centered and accepting of yourself.
The secret really isn't to try to manage that anxiety by playing games or following the rules or anything like that. The secret is to eliminate the anxiety you feel that's causing you to do all of these things in the first place.
2. Waiting for him to call you doesn't make you more attractive.
There are a lot of reasons why someone might think that the guy should always call the girl first. Many of them revolve around the idea that waiting for him to call is feminine or that letting him make the first move is his masculine duty.
However, there is a huge misconception about femininity these days. So many people believe that in order to be feminine you have to be passive. You have to just go with the flow and let life wash over you.
I don't buy that one bit. Being feminine isn't about being passive. It's not about being subjected to the mercy and whims of life. Being feminine is instead, about being receptive. You can be completely receptive and open while still taking action. And that includes calling him.
It's all in how you do it. Are you calling from a place of neediness (see the previous point)? Are you calling him with a hidden agenda? Are you calling him to ask him out? Or are you calling him to invite him to take the lead?
3. Waiting for him to call you is incredibly passive.
Taking the passive approach in life isn't usually a good strategy. You wouldn't just expect that being passive with your career or your health would help you get your next promotion or the healthy body that you want. So why would taking a passive approach at dating lead you anywhere better?
The truth is that when you take a passive approach, you generally just end up wherever the currents of circumstance take you. And that usually tends to be mediocrity. If you're not satisfied with having a mediocre relationship or love life, then I'd strongly suggest that you take a bit more of an active approach.
Trust me, it's okay to call a man.
Really, it is.
If we like you, it will mean a lot to us. It shows you're interested in us and that you actually care about connecting with us.