5 Ways to Attract the Man You Want


5 Ways to Attract the Man You Want
How science can be your best wingman when attracting the man you want.

5 Ways to Attract a Man
(With A Little Help From Science)

WARNING: I will admit, the subject matter in this blog might get you a little riled up, but I want you to read it first, give it a shot, and then make judgments on the material. So, repeat after me: “I (state your name) promise to read Christian’s blog with an open mind and not judge what he is going to say for the next two pages. Even if I get upset, I will not punch the screen or call him up and cuss him out. This is just an exercise and I am going to be open to it.” Great! Let’s jump into some biology.


Fact: A man’s sexual organ is not in his pants…It’s in his eyes. We men are visual creatures. Plain and simple. Nature made us that way. It is how we operate.  Ask any man what happens when he walks in a new room, and five out of six will say something like: “I do an immediate scope and rank all the ladies in the vicinity.” It is second nature; ever since puberty. It is not because we are dogs or bad guys. Beyond our rational and creative mind, we are simple mammals that are wired to continue the human race. In essence, we are procreating machines.

We humans are some serious survivors. Scientists calculate that over 99.9% of all species that ever lived have become extinct.  99.9%!!! But not us humans…Why?…Because our genetic wiring continues to evolve to always be masterful at mating and reproduction.  A big piece of that mastery starts with the man’s complete infatuation with the woman, which: biochemically speaking, is sparked solely from the visual.


Now I know what many of you might be thinking: “Christian, that is bullsh$%. I know plenty of men that have fallen for me because of my wit, charm, and intelligence.” Absolutely, but I am sure he was initially struck to walk over to you because of his primal reaction to your physical presence. Of course you are more than just looks, but if you want to capitalize on a 20 million year old process that is embedded in our DNA to attract men into your territory, then lets study the art of body language and see if it affects the amount of men you attract into your circle. After all, 85% of all communication comes through the body.

So here are 5 simple ways you can beef up your mating dance game and attract a few more beaus into your life without saying a word.

1)    Smile

By far the easiest and simplest way to invite a man to come into your kingdom. Men are more intimidated than ever to approach women in the 21st Century. Why? You all can do just as much as we can now, so we are lacking the confidence that our forefathers had when roles were more clearly defined. A warm smile can ignite a man’s courage to walk up to you.

NOTE: Respected relationship expert, Dr. Pat Allen, suggests using red lipstick since our 4 legged primate ancestors once attracted their male counterparts with their swollen vulvas. Now that we are on 2 legs, parts are, well… quite hidden, so evolution has passed the mating magnet to another pair of exposed lips. (I know, I know. Try to keep a straight face through this one.)

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