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The Long and Short of Buying Your First Dildo

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The Long and Short of Buying Your First Dildo
There's so much selection in this aisle of the sex shop that it can hard to know what to choose.

This articles was written by The Redhead Bedhead for Kinkly.com.

Perhaps if you're thinking about buying your first dildo, you have a fantasy that looks something like this: You head to the sex shop with visions of phallic joy dancing in your head. You walk in ready to say "One dildo please!" Then, you're confronted with a dizzying array of shapes, sizes, materials and textures. Do you want one that looks and feels like a penis? Do you want something made of steel, or glass, or acrylic or wood? Do you want something with bumps and ridges? Do you want something that looks like a popsicle?

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Or are you totally overwhelmed and ready to go home? Yeah. It's not an uncommon problem.

So, let's break it down. (Oh, and you might want to read this first: A Long, Strange Trip Through Dildo History.)

A Dildo for Every Occasion

Strap-On?

If you are strap-happy, your dildo needs to have a flanged base to hold it in a harness. But because this one's for partner play, you also need to consider who is on the receiving end. If pegging is in your plan, consider something with a curve so as to stimulate the prostate. (For more on prostate stimulation read this. Now. I’ll wait.)

If you want this toy for vaginal action, consider fit, especially length because some of that inherently gets lost under the harness/belly if it's too long. How much depth do you need? For oral play, width is what matters more.

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Or Toy-in-Hand?
If you're using a dildo without a strap, your options expand considerably because you don’t need to worry about it being held by a harness. That means you don’t necessarily need a flanged base. Unless, of course, you're using it anally, in which case it must, must, MUST have a flanged base because stuff can get lost in the rectum. Remember: Without a base = without a trace. (Read more about what can go wrong with anal sex in Why You Shouldn't Have Anal Sex.)

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