6 Ways To Beat Post-Vacation Blues

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How to make the vacation high last long after you've unpacked

Vacations—the experiences we create and the people we share them with—are priceless. The days of ease, freedom and playfulness transform your mind and relationships.

We all want to bring our vacations home with us, but it seems as soon as we get in the door, the demands of home and work begin to affect us. Soon the glow of our vacation is nothing but a distant memory and some photos in a book. So how can you extend the feelings, relaxation and ease of mind you achieve on vacation into your day-to-day? An Easy Gift To Help You Hang On To Happy Memories

1. Pay attention to your feelings.
A wonderful byproduct of vacations is the deepened intimacy we feel with those we love. Time away together inspires feelings of connection, deeper sexual attraction, increased patience and more love. One way to keep these good feelings flowing is to begin a brief, but regular practice of acknowledging the good that flows between you; even if only for moments at a time. It can be something as insignificant as a "thank you" for hanging up a wet towel or something more meaningful like writing a note that says "I so appreciate when you really hear me." By putting forth effort to stay connected to your intimate feelings, you encourage the bond to remain long after you have returned home.

2. Make having fun a priority, not a luxury.
A good vacation also gives us the practical experience of having fun with the people we love everyday. Rediscovering the power of humor to heal our relationships can be as easy as a card game on a rainy afternoon or a romp in the waves. Vacations by definition offer multiple and varied access to fun.

As your vacation is winding down, take note of the ways that fun just spontaneously happens when you're traveling and make a short list of the ways you laugh together while you are away. This will help you to tangibly recreate similar events once you're back in your routine at home.

For instance, if you vacationed in France or Italy, where drinking wine at lunch is customary, when you return home, on occasional weekends, recreate the experience by having a glass with your midday meal. Every sip can provide a sensual reminder of the wonderful, relaxed time you had overseas. 5 Guys You Should Have Fun With Before Marriage

3. Remember the essence of what a vacation really is.
When you go on vacation, you are, by definition, "vacating." But vacating what? Two things: your physical location and your usual state of mind. It's not really a vacation unless you do both.

This hints at how we can integrate vacation energy into our lives at home. You can do so by "vacating" the premises without actually packing your bags. To create a physical change of scenery you could:

* House-swap with a nearby couple or rent a hotel room at a local place and have a romantic night away.

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