Veronica Monet, Author

Veronica Monet - Author, Dating Coach, Divorce Coach, Divorce Recovery Coach, Life Coach, Marriage Educator, Mediator, Personal Development Coach, Relationship Coach, Sex Coach, Sex Educator, Speaker/Presenter, Spiritual Healer - Nevada City, CA
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Healing Shame . . . Empowering You!

About Me

Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM: Couples Empath, Sexologist, Author and Radio Host.

Welcome to The Shame Free Zone! You may have seen me on CNN, A&E, WE, FOX, NBC, ABC, CBS or The Playboy Channel. Or perhaps you have read my book, Sex Secrets of Escorts which has sold over 15,000 copies! I have been profiled in the pages of many mainstream magazines and newspapers including Allure, Complete Woman and The New York Times. I also host The Shame Free Zone on a radio network for women and couples which I helped to found. You are welcome to download episodes to your iPod or mp3.

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Conflict and Confusion in our relationships can create more Emotional Pain and Despair than any other factor in life. But this same source of sadness and frustration can be transformed into a rich resource for love, connection, safety, support, understanding, empathy, romance and spiritual fulfillment.

Imagine looking forward to speaking with your partner about the problems and obstacles in your relationship. Imagine feeling confident that the two of you will not only create solutions which satisfy both of you but that each of you will feel closer and safer and more in love than ever before.

It is possible to transform life's inevitable difficulties into opportunities for connecting and understanding one another in a manner which evokes your empathy and arouses your romantic passions.

I live this path daily and I have done so for years. It really works and I can show you how to make it a reality in your relationships.

As an Empathy Expert and Conflict Resolution Specialist, I combine my gift for deep empathy with over 14 years of “hands-on” experience as a courtesan as well as many years of formal education. As a Certified Sexologist (ACS), Certified Sex Educator (SFSI), Certified Anger Management Specialist (CAM), Trained Volunteer for the Center Against Rape and Domestic Violence (CARDV) and an Ordained Minister (ULC), I help couples to connect with compassion and create vibrant, heart-centered, long-term relationships. I coach men, women and couples over the telephone and in-person at my northern California office.

I offer an holistic and unique approach to relationship difficulties. Combining Sexology with Anger Management techniques in my Couples Clinics and Role Playing Sessions. I love creating that "Aha!" moment for my clients and seeing the sparkle in their eyes return. More than anything, I am here to help you enjoy the love and intimacy you have always dreamed of.

Please be sure to visit my website for your free gift and much more including free podcasts and videos: www.TheShameFreeZone.com

 

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The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

Growing up in a dysfunctional family created many obstacles for me but the journey has only made me stronger and imbued me with gratitude and joy which I love to share with others.

I am personally recovered from alcoholism, drug addiction, OCD, incest, rape, domestic violence, rage, and sexual dysfunction for the past 25 years! Life is amazing and I love sharing the powerful tools I have acquired over the years as well as the personal insights and expertise that only having experienced the frustrations and joys of recovery could bring.

Truth be told however, I have had a gift for helping others since I was just a teenager and all my college friends visited my dorm room like it was their personal therapy office. I have a natural capacity for deep empathy and I delight in sharing your feelings with an eye to help you implement solutions which are tailored to create what you want in your life. I was born to do this work!

Email me for more information at Veronica@TheShameFreeZone.com

Success Stories

Feeling Alone, Confused and in Dire Need of Clarity . . .

I was feeling alone, confused and in dire need of clarity about a sexual issue I was confronting.  Veronica did what I thought was impossible. 

She quickly established trust, got to the heart of the matter, then lovingly provided hope, insight, laser-sharp wisdom and spot-on information.  

After our telephone session, she followed up with a supportive email and some suggested reading.   I felt 1000% better immediately and now have the tools I need to successfully explore my sexuality in the future. 

I will always be grateful to Veronica for dedicating her life to helping others to achieve maximum fulfillment in their intimate lives.

 

Mark 

Love Letters from the Men, Women and Couples I Have Helped

What attracted me [to your services] was your unflinching intelligence, your compassion, your toughness, and your breathtaking intuition.  It was clear that you were a person who offered results.  I was also able to perceive your energy, though I didn't know what to call it at the time.  But you felt safe.  . . . What you offer is extremely personal, even more so than ordinary counseling. . . You also offer me the advantages of the confessional and friendship.  I consider this three-for-one deal to be extremely worthwhile.  I have not encountered it before.

You have helped me in many ways: with compassion, with knowledge, with the toughness to challenge my baloney as it becomes appropriate.  But mostly you have helped me to face the issues of shame that I have brought to you.  As the Adult Survivors of Child Abuse describes it, "Shame is that part of you that you can't face because it is so intolerable."  You have helped me face my shame issues, one at a time, and take possession of each so that I can accept what is real and rearrange the consequences to my own satisfaction.  Each success frees a part of me that was in some sense crippled.  I am so grateful for the space of safety you create and hold for me that makes this possible.

I consider what you offer me to be in many ways sacred.  I'm not entirely sure how that can be and am fast learning not to care.

Eric J. 

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Veronica, you afforded me a rare opportunity to really get to know what is going on in the mind of the opposite sex in a critical point in that relationship.  It was invaluable, insightful, and very useful to come at the problem from a completely different approach. Some of what you spoke just has the wisdom of the ages, and some is as fresh as the words of the latest hip-hop club scene.  Also, it was just downright fun to talk with you at a very difficult time in my life.  Thanks ever so much.

Nomad

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You help me to get clarity and stay on the path of improvement and progress as far as my relationship interactions are concerned. You have helped me to go from a guy who's fumbling around and mostly not dating to one who's having consistent and meaningful connections with the women who come into my life. By keeping me honest when it comes to the denials, self-illusions, and obsessive focuses that are so easy to build up in my head, you have allowed me stay on task with the real issues that have kept me from having the love life I always wanted, and my love life has benefited as a result.

Michael M.

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Veronica provides me with advice filled with plenty of wisdom, compassion and love. Veronica helps me to pursue a life with deeper meaning.

Sara L.

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I consider you a part of my support system.  After talking with you, I gained the confidence required to know that my pursuit is the right decision for me.  I feel connected with you because you are intuitive and level-headed, have a deep understanding of self, and we share a political and spiritual platform.

Cat 

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I actually consider the service I pay you for as COUNSELING. (Yes - I said "counseling.") The reason I utilize you is that with your experience and expertise, and your specialization as a sex educator, I feel that I can process some of my issues, which as I 'm sure you can appreciate are not often well received in mainstream mental health circles . . . I'm comfortable being honest with you about my curiosity, fantasies, and consider the information to be relatively accurate and valuable.

Our consultations are helping me to normalize and validate my curiosity and interests about sex workers; especially about the idea that sex workers actually do have a therapeutic role which they fulfill for many clients who have sexual and emotional wounds. Although they would not be accepted as such by the mainstream mental health and social service community, many sex workers are actually practicing in positive and normalized venues in which their clients are being therapeutically served at some level, which would be difficult for them to access in clinical therapeutic environments - mostly because of transference and counter-transference issues rooted in the prevalent sex negative values in our society.  The view of sex workers by clinical professionals is in serious need of reconsideration . . .



A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California

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Oh Veronica! You have helped me most of all just by being really clean with your energy. You have a *lot* of passion -- which gives you a lot of power -- and you have kept it clean with a loving honesty that is all too rare. It's a healing catalyst. Of course the breathing etc. exercises are great, but your integrity is what really makes it work.

Ed R.

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Veronica, coaching with you has been like a breath of fresh air in my life!  Our conversations have brought me to a new place – they are safe, comfortable and oh so interesting . . . Your voice on the other end of the telephone line is something that I always look forward to.  You have taken the fear out of my addressing the body image issues that have followed me since I was a teenager and have taken so much of my confidence for most of my adult life.

I am also experiencing more love and a greater connection with the man in my life.  Having you as my coach has given me a place to voice my feelings, and as a result, I am naturally becoming the kind of woman I have always wanted to be.  The nurturing guidance you have given me has made all the difference in my life.

Thank You . . .

Rene H.

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You are truly a priestess and therapist - and I'm touched by your warmth and loving acceptance. What I especially love about you is how you've evolved the work of Sacred Prostitute from an escort context to what you do now. All of my interactions with you have been catalytic in creating some kind of a shift for me in my inner spirit. Thank you.

Greg B.

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Veronica Monet is an everyday woman with a past.  She helps women find a greater sense of themselves by connecting them to their female roots and their truest sense of self.  She helped me to understand and reach out to the multi-dimensional world of greater intimacy and a stronger self-image.

Rene H.

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I love working with Veronica! Meeting her has truly changed my life for the better in many ways. I am so grateful to her!!

She's a wealth of knowledge and inspiration. She has a huge heart with the heels to kick you out of the places where your stuck.

She's a master at pushing someone out of their comfort zone so that they may continue to grow in the best ways possible, using inspiration, honesty, intuition and her own real world experience.

Ivy A.

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I want to thank you for your wild wisdom.  I am still contemplating a number of the things you said.  Most particularly your rant about the attractiveness of vital life-force rings true.  Of course that goes beyond the sexual.  You've inspired me to consider this in multiple situations in the ensuing days!  Your energy also encouraged me to take the chance to be open about my sexuality in some conversations, where in the past I would not have mentioned it.  The response was notable!  I'm glad to feel more alive for it and freer in having simply stated the truth.

Talk about wild!  I want to say that the second half of my session was as helpful as the first half was irritating!  I would not have chosen to arrange my session that way, but, as it turned out, the regrouping and clarifying I was able to do in between made it far more effective for me.

Dean Ray

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Your workshop was HUGE for us, and I wish we had had it at the beginning of our marriage.  It would have prevented a lot of the very explosive and emotionally intense interactions that have been the bane of our relationship.  The agreements for safety that we learned from you went into effect right away and our connection has as a result improved more in the few months since your workshop than in all the years before.

Alex and Melody


 

Yes, this woman is a pastor of souls.

Book Review posted by a Reader:

Monet refers to herself as a scientist and in this hankers back to the post Kinsey sex surrogates that used to work in the 70s side by side therapists and marriage counselors, before the lawyers and the Internet put most of them out of work. Monet's book made me think of sexual healers of old, such as Carolyn Elderberry and Juliet Anderson (of blessed memory), interviewed in Women of the Light: The New Sacred Prostitute by Kenneth Ray Stubbs (Sept. 1994). As to the spiritual and theological side, I especially enjoyed Monet's studies and practices learned from Tantra and how she brought these ideas into a context that is delightful in her writings.

It's not quite fair to review a book as I have when you've had the personal treat to meet and talk with the author face to face. A book should stand on its own. And some have criticized Monet for not including juicy vignettes from her days as a high class working courtesan. But that's just it. Because she knows about love, and the human spirit she doesn't kiss and tell. Because she loves and respects people--almost as a pastor of souls. Yes, this woman is a pastor of souls.

Maybe her bisexuality helps, as she says she loves women. But because the paying for it part of sex is a man's business, she learned to love and respect her male clients perhaps far more than the average wife loves and respects her husband. She definitely believes sex is a god thing, starting each session with a prayer and a heart chakra hug that not only screens out people she will not work with, but sets the tone and spirituality of the encounter at the outset for those she chooses as clients.

Monet is all about the depth and quality of the personal connection in her work and book. I find her as much a priestess as courtesan in Sex Secrets. She reminded me of another favorite book I liked, Nancy Qualls-Corbett's The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine (Paperback, 1988). Qualls-Corbett's historical look takes in the spiritual calling of the Sacred Prostitute of centuries past and the heat they took then from the high horse piety of uptight Christians and Jews and Muslims of old. No secret why Monet cannot use her real name now. Her previous professon remains illegal in most states, as does sex surrogate work and probably couples coaching, too.

It occurred to me towards the end of her Sex Secrets that, like many men who are taught falsely to believe that males are born smart about sex, that I'd read a hundred plus books on what women want sexually and otherwise. But until this book I'd never read a title by a woman aiming to teach other women what men might like erotically. I find it rather remarkable that a bisexual woman can be so caring for men. Nice.

The world is a richer place because of the retired and semi retired sex workers who have turned educators, sex counselors and relationship coaches. I've long thought it stupid for married couples to spend thousands of dollars on cerebral marriage counselors when often what the couple really seemed to need was simply to be sent straight to bed without their supper and told do the nasty slow by candle light and a little Enya on the boom box.

Much is said in this book about the sacramental healing available in the old fashioned business of simply getting it on and working through relationship issues at a body level. Yes, Monet's book for me was not unlike the books and seminars of the therapist, David Schnarch. (Passionate marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, paperback, 2009.)

Read this book. And meet this author when she comes to town for a lecture. And then go out and love somebody. As the Italians say, "love is poor man's opera". Take singing lesions then and read this book.

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Dan E. Nicholas, CLU, CLTC, LUTCF

Long Term Care Solution Specialist

What a Charming Book! Refreshingly Genuine!

Hi Veronica,

I finally got the chance to pick up your book. Just finished it.

What a charming book! (just like you) It is refreshingly genuine. (also like you)

You and I have the same perspectives on sex. I don't want to write my own book here in an email, but so much of what you have written resonates completely. I have the same approach to sex. I make a safe space for my lover to be who s/he is in bed and I absolutely guard that special space. I don't fake orgasms. I had to chuckle as advice after advice that you give are things I do (that guys don't usually get from other ladies, unfortunately).

It amazes me how many guys have told me that I am the first person they slept with who wanted the lights on. I give the same genital anatomy lesson you do, and I love the looks of wonder (and maybe feeling like they are getting away with something) on guy's faces when I reveal my vulva. I can tell from the naive questions they ask that I am clearing up confusions they didn't even know they had about female anatomy.

Since adulthood I've been on the plump side and I've struggled with body issues since I don't look like a magazine ideal, but I don't have any trouble getting dates-- you are right about sexual confidence being more attractive than a particular body type and that men usually have different personal tastes than the anorexic adolescent society ideal.

I really enjoyed your book and identified with it.

When I was a young adult for a while I only dated women, and it AMAZES me to think of all the comments I heard from heterosexual women about their men! How the penis is ugly and balls are disgusting, how they only go down to get something, how they would never touch themselves "down there," how they endure sex. I became for a while the Lesbian Defender of Men--if sex is so horrible for you, why do you do it? If you are repelled by male genitalia, why touch them? I felt so bad for these poor men.

Thankfully I never had sex with men until it was something I really wanted. I am grateful that I was able to work out my issues with sex before I started having it, especially after hearing from my friends and acquaintances about years of bad sex or women who couldn't even orgasm.

Unfortunately society does not reward women embracing their own sexuality, and women also have the very real fear of getting the "slut" double standard imposed if they revel in their own juiciness. I am delighted whenever I meet other women--you!--who embrace their sexuality with both arms and then open up their spirits to it, even turning early damage into something healthier and more profound than most regular people experience.

Thanks for sharing this book with the world.

Agnes

 

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