How The Myth Of The 'Beta B*tch' Destroys Your Friendships With Women

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Don't give in to the hype.

There are various meanings of the word "trope," but for the sake of this conversation, this definition offered by Urban Dictionary sums it up best:

"Trope on the interwebs really refers to an often overused plot device. It can also be described as another variation on the same theme. TV shows, movies, comics, games, anime & books are full of tropes and many rabid fan-sites now name and track said tropes with a self-explanatory title for each one. Not all tropes are bad, until Hollywood gets stuck on one."

These overused plot devices can be problematic, and today I want to talk about one that can be particularly harmful to women: the Beta Bitch.

Who is she?

While the chart above shows a few different high school movie tropes, the Beta Bitch is the sidekick role. She’s not the character with the funny one liners, the narrator with the heart of gold or the totally hot and evil villain. Instead, she’s the villain’s best friend.

At times, she’s portrayed as well-meaning, like Gretchen Wieners from 'Mean Girls'.

Other times, she’s just desirous of that coveted “best friend” spot, like Penelope from 'Gossip Girl'.

There’s also the Beta Bitch that’s eager to take over the role of the Alpha (see: Heathers) and the one that might be the second-in-command but is even more evil than the Queen Bee, like Miranda from 'As Told By Ginger' or Santana from 'Glee'.

What’s wrong with the trope?

The Beta Bitch trope enforces the idea that there’s a hierarchy among women. It also gives viewers and readers the notion that friendships between women aren’t meaningful and wholesome, but rather a competition.

 

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In reality, female friendships are much more complex. While there are certainly catty individuals out there, genuine friendships aren’t about being the boss.

But the entire concept of the Beta Bitch is even more damaging once you peer beneath the surface.

The Beta is often viewed as a kinder, gentler version of the Alpha. To impressionable viewers, this is a sign that women in control are bitches and that females who follow are generally more well-meaning.

There are also occasions where the Beta is crueler than the Alpha or secretly wishes to do her in and take over her empire, and this signals the stereotype that women are superficially competitive and will do anything to be on top amongst their peers.

Speaking of competition, a major plot point of many teen dramas centers around various members of the group vying for the role of Beta.  

Generally, the “interloper” figure — like Cady from Mean Girls or Vylette from Jawbreaker — pushes the original Beta out of the way. The popularity then gets to her head and she finds herself encroaching on Alpha territory, making an enemy out of the girl whose friendship she desired all along.

While it’s engrossing to watch the rise and fall of any main character, there are all sorts of things wrong with this presentation.

It draws many questions: Is wanting to be popular really such a bad and shallow thing? Is it really possible for only one girl the be the queen bee?

Then there’s the fact that there’s often nothing to the Beta figure aside from the fact that she’s a Beta, a follower.

Take Gretchen from 'Mean Girls'. Even after her problematic group crumbles apart, she moves on to Beta-ing for another social queen. There are certainly people who are followers rather than leaders, but it’s lazy writing to assume a sidekick is just, well … a sidekick. (No hate to Mean Girls, though. I don’t care how shitty the tropes are, I friggin love that movie.)

Finally, the trope is messed up because it pushes the stereotype that women are cliquey.

The Alpha and Beta girls are often the closest in their girl group, which is usually already small to begin with. They only deem a few others “worthy” of their friendship and only see one another as worthy of any displays of genuine affection or special treatment.

In reality, friend groups, including within sororities, have complex dynamics within them — and it IS possible for a group of best friends to all actually BE best friends.

What's being done to combat the trope?

Well, you can look at this in a few ways. 

For instance, take 'Gossip Girl'. You might view Serena and Blair’s constant competition to be Alpha as subversive. After all, neither of them is the true Beta and both are strong characters with their own unique goals, dreams, and fashion senses. On the other hand, the storyline reinforces the damaging idea that there is constant competition within female friendships.

We can also examine parodies like YouTube’s The Most Popular Girls in School.

The show features mutated Barbies and mocks many of the high school stereotype often portrayed in media, including the Alpha/Beta dynamic in girl groups. Awesomely enough, main characters Brittnay and Mackenzie both fulfill the Beta trope while having a genuine, though toxic, friendship.

Check it out for yourself (warning: graphic language and adult situations).

There are also several good books and movies out there that show groups of women who embrace one another and don’t vie for first place.

 

Related: It's Way Past Time To Stop Being So DAMN Nice To Everyone Online

 

Though there are definitely problems with some of these friendships and some of their storylines, the relationships between women in 'The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants' by Ann Brashares, HBO’s 'Sex and the City', and popular 90s sitcom 'Friends' are pretty empty of this trope.

Conclusion

The Beta Bitch trope might show that it’s better to lead than to follow, but it does a disservice to a lot of insecure teenage girls out there who just want to find real friends. It also reinforces stereotypes about competition between women and makes it seem as if none of our friendships are truly genuine.

And finally, it leads viewers to believe that a quest to be well-liked is always shallow when in reality there’s nothing wrong with wanting to have lots of friends.

Yeah, this trope is in pretty much all of my favorite teen movies, but it’s still something we should examine rather than just straight up accept.

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This article was originally published at Slutty Girl Problems. Reprinted with permission from the author.