You're not looking for someone to complete you.
Do you think you're ready for a relationship or are you just lonely? It’s never a good idea to rush into a relationship, especially not immediately following a breakup. Rebound relationships tend not to go the distance and rarely make you feel better about yourself or your past relationship.
We can go for long periods of time without being in a relationship, though some people feel so terrified at the prospect of not being with someone that they act too quickly to get into one. But how do you know when you’re ready to commit to being with another person?
To be a good partner to someone else, you must love yourself first because it’s impossible to truly love another if you aren’t comfortable with yourself. In fact, the one essential relationship we have in our lives is the one we have with ourselves and it’s the one upon all our relationships are built.
People sometimes say that they’re dating themselves; for some, it means that’s they’re indicating their advantaged age, while others mean that they take themselves out and enjoy their own company. There’s even a movement where people are marrying themselves as a statement to the world as if they’re saying, “I’m enough right now.”
When you love yourself, you have enough love to give to others and have the inner strength to be able to handle the challenges that being in a relationship with another person entails.
Now, I’m not saying that you should put off being in a relationship if you’re not 100 percent in love with yourself, or if the real reason you’re not ready is because you’re afraid of being hurt. Sometimes you need to take a leap of faith and trust that you’re ready and that the other person is too, and that together you can create a healthy and loving relationship.
You don’t have to spend hours soul-searching; there are signs and indications that you show that you’re ready for a relationship.
You're doing great on your own. Your life is full, you're happy, and there's no lack of fun things to do. You don't need anyone to complete and you're not dependent on anyone else for your happiness.
You can see sharing your life with another. While a relationship can't be the only thing you have in your life, it does affect it in many ways and you need to be able to make room for it. With a relationship, you become connected to your partner's friends, families, pets, ideas, activities, likes, dislikes, living situation, feelings on religion, politics, and even their entertainment options.
You're able to think about a relationship without the idea of commitment scaring the crap out of you. If the notion of commitment is frightening to you, you're never going to be able to pursue a relationship without unintentionally sabotaging it. If you can see why a relationship would be good for you without raising your heart rate, you're ready.
You're able to leave any exes and past relationships in the past, and can give a new relationship the time and attention it would need. If you're too wrapped up in the past, there'd be no room for someone new. While there's safety in the past, you know you're strong enough to be vulnerable with a new love.
You want nothing less than unconditional love. You know you deserve the best and a love that comes with conditions or makes you change to accommodate it isn't for you. You know you're a catch and you don't need to try to convince someone to love you.
You got rid of that list of the qualities that your perfect partner must have. You know that having an impossible set of expectations and must-haves is a way of blocking out any possibilities. You're open and not letting your tendency for perfection get in your way.
You're at a point in your life where you're able to put someone else's interests ahead of your own. Relationships take a lot of compromise and patience and you've got the emotional space to do that.
You're comfortable in your own skin and you like yourself. You've accepted yourself and you're ready to accept someone else into your life. When you are at ease with the person you are, it's much easier to relate to another person. When you're not fixated on your own flaws, you're able to be more accepting of unique characteristics of another human.
You're open to the possibilities and can go off script. You're not desperate to find a relationship, so it's likely that you'll find one in an unexpected way. Since you love change, you're looking forward to the ways you'll grow and change if you have a special someone in your life.
You know what's important to you and what you want in a relationship, but that doesn't make you inflexible or unable to compromise. You're not going to mold yourself into what you think is more appealing nor are you going to place restrictions on a potential partner. You're ready to do the work that a healthy relationship requires.
You don't sweat the small stuff and you're not going to make a huge deal out of every disagreement or issue your new relationship might have. There are times in relationships when you just have to let something go and move on.
You're not dependent on another person to make you happy because you can do that for yourself. You aren't someone who needs constant distractions as you're not afraid to be alone. You're creative, imaginative, and perfectly content making art or appreciating it, but you aren't so self-contained that there isn't room for another person.