7 Things To Know Before You Have Lesbian Sex For The First Time

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Call it the cram session before the cram session.

So you're about to have hot sex with another woman. GOOD JOB! 

Happy lesbian sex day to you and to us all! 

It's normal when trying something new to get a little bugged out. Will you bungle it?

Will you remove her pants so poorly that all the others lesbians will hear about it and laugh? 

Don't worry, we're here to guide you through your first lesbian sex experience like the Jedi masters that we are. 

By the time we're done, you'll be enjoying hot sex with women like a pro. 


1. Trim your nails 



You have a vagina, so this should be a no brainer, but also long nails can be pretty and fun. But if you want to sex up another woman properly cut and clean your fingernails.

Shorter clean nails make for less-stabby sensations in the genitals.

Think about it, would you want someone with three inch daggers merrily approaching your vagina? No, no you would not.


2. Masturbate



If you're gearing up to have sex with a woman for the first time and you find nerves over-taking you, chill out and masturbate. This serves a dual function. Firstly, it will calm you the eff down because, you know, masturbation. Secondly, taking the time to get in touch with your body will help you when it comes to time to get in touch with another female body. 


3. Boobs



Boobs are not one size fits all, and the world is a happier place for it. Start slowly with kissing, licking, squeezing, and pervy fondling.

Make sure you're communicating with your partner about what works for her and what doesn't. Maybe she needs more pinching, maybe she needs you to not touch her at all.

You won't know unless you ask or she shoves you off her which is, admittedly, not ideal. 


4. Humping



There ain't nothing with a little bump and grind, even if you don't have a penis. Clothed friction while making out with your partner is a hot and heavy precursor to the main stage action, plus it will help you both get comfortable and aroused. 


5. Sex Toys



Guys, sex toys are great, but if it's your first time having lesbian sex with someone, maybe save them for round two.

Round one should be reserved for figuring out her body, and how your body can stimulate it and make her happy.

So with the exception of a vibe, let's keep this low tech. 


6. Fingering



Her clit is not an elevator button. Repeatedly jabbing it will not get her there faster, if anything it will just be confusing.

Let's kick things back a notch. The clitoris is actually 10 times bigger than is visible externally. So gently rubbing her pubic mound, stroking her labia, and circling the clit itself can all add up to a slow build that is totally fucking hot and awesome. 


7. Going DOWN!



This is where girls tend to bug out, and I'll be real I think it's from internalized self-loathing courtesy of our dear friend the patriarchy.

Does a vagina taste like chocolate cake? No. Does it taste better than a dick? Without exception.

Besides, you aren't down there for a Zagat rated dining experience, you're down there to get her off LIKE A CHAMP.

Start off slowly. Use your nose and your breath to tease. A clit is made of the same erectile tissue as a penis, so if you've gone to town on one of those, the mechanics really aren't all that different.

She will indicate to you what's working and what isn't. If she doesn't have an orgasm the first time, that's fine! There's more to sex than orgasm, especially when it's your first time with a partner.

Above all things, when it comes to sex communication is key. If something doesn't feel right, if something baffles you, if you feel lost or worried, SAY THAT. There's nothing less sexy than two people grimacing as they bone poorly and fail to reach completion. 


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