The results will lead to a better you.
Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to dislike your life to want to change it. In fact, you can really like the way things are going but feel that, with a few tweaks, you could be living a life you love.
Whatever your reason for seeking change, we want to support your efforts in a way that's real and effective. Here are 10 small decisions guaranteed to make a big impact.
1. Ask for feedback you can really trust.
I'm sure that deep down you know that, aside from feeding your ego, "yes" men and women hold zero value when it comes to progression. Set aside time with the trusted key players in your personal and professional life, and ask them for candid feedback on your strengths and areas of opportunity. Make it clear you're looking to grow and then prove it by not getting defensive or angry. Take it in and make tweaks where necessary.
2. Do what you love, and do it well.
It takes more than passion and talent to be successful. Make it your mission to master whatever it is that motivates you to get out of bed in the morning. Do the work to become an expert in your field and you'll be on a lifelong journey that will allow you to get (and offer) something new out of it every single day.
3. Push yourself to let it go.
Whatever "it" is. While it might seem that we have an endless capacity to hold information, mental space gets cluttered and the more garbage we hang onto, the harder it is to find what matters most. Sit down and think about what you think about most, and do what's needed to address it and make room for new ideas, clarity and serenity.
4. Stop complaining.
Misery may love company, but let's be honest with ourselves for a moment: has moaning about the same thing over and over ever changed anything other than to stir up more negative energy? Instead of complaining, treat your concerns the way you would a business setback: make a statement about what you don't like and come up with a plan to change it.
5. Practice tolerance.
We live in a very connected world with billions of people who have had very different experiences from us. Instead of being threatened by our differences, let us approach one another with a passionate curiosity. We may find we have much more in common than we think by doing so.
6. Accept uncertainty as a positive part of life.
Just as you figure one thing out, something else becomes vague. Uncertainty is a part of life and though it can send some people into a tailspin, it doesn't always have to be negative. The more certain you are about who you are, who you aren't, where you want (and don't want) to go, the more directional and less daunting it is.
7. Infuse life with your own meaning.
I guarantee that the very fact that you're here, living and breathing, means a great deal to someone. That said, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks if you don't feel your life is meaningful. Take some time to really think about what matters most to you and what kind of legacy you want to leave. Think about the ways you want to impact those around you, and what drives you to get up and live your life every day.
8. Be open to new experiences.
You may know the parts of yourself very well that are most consistent, but there's a good chance you have a lot more to discover about you. Learn to say "yes" to new experiences, even if they sound a little strange at first. Sure, you may not sign up for a pâté tasting on your own, but accept the invitation from a new friend; there's a good chance you may find that you come away from the experience with some new insight (and perhaps a new interest and/or friend).
9. Take a time out.
The world is constantly "on" but that doesn't mean you need to be. Take some time every day to sit in your own space with your own thoughts, and breath for at least 15 minutes. Turn off the telephone and TV, close down the computer and just be.
10. Stop worrying about what everyone thinks.
As long as you're being a good person and treating people right, it doesn't matter how they feel about your decision to not go out on a Saturday night.
Brenda Della Casa is the Author of Cinderella Was a Liar, The Editor-in-chief and Digital Content Strategist at Preston Bailey Designs, and a Huffington Post Blogger. She regularly speaks on the topic of Digital Content, Social Media and Digital Strategy. Facebook: BrendaDellaCasa, Twitter: @BrendaDellaCasa, Instagram: @BrendaDellaCasa.