5 Things I Learned By Having Sex With My Hubby For 30 Days STRAIGHT

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 Having Sex For 30 Days Straight

Doing the dirty for 30 days in a row? Challenge ACCEPTED.

I've often been one of those creepy silent lurkers who clicks on those "I had sex every day for a year!" articles, like the original by the ever-fabulous Brittany Gibbons.

I've read them and gawked at them,and basically thought all of those women were 1) attention hungry 2) crazy, and 3) obviously more brave than I (hello, cramps and a certain monthly visitor).

When I decided to stop being a lurker and take on a challenge to have sex with my husband every day for 30 days, I learned a lot more than I thought I would.

1. I'm totally insecure.

Holy crap, do I have some major body issues. Granted, my youngest child is only 9 months old and I'm actually still breastfeeding, so maybe I have a little leeway in this department but I was genuinely shocked by how uncomfortable I was in my own skin trying to get busy with him. Every. Single. Day.

I ran away, I hid my stomach, I protested, and I called myself fat — I did anything I could think of to actually not be naked. It was a real eye-opener to me to realize just how distorted my own body image had become from having kids, and to see the very real effect that had on our sex life.

2. Exercising makes me feel sexy.

With the realization that I need to feel comfortable with my body again, I got majorly into exercising last month and discovered that I love working out. Taking the time to fit in a daily work out inspires me to eat better, take care of myself in other small ways, and it has the added bonus of giving me more energy. All that in combination with some actual pounds lost equals a sexier me.

3. It's so important to get in the mood before having sex.

I admit that there were a few days when I just didn't feel like doing anything remotely intimate, but I thought, well, maybe I could just do it and get it over with it. Or, maybe once we get going, it will be great. Truthfully, it never worked for me.

I realized that the lead-up — flirting with my husband, talking, and just being intimate in other ways  is super important to me before any physical intimacy happens.

4. Kids really do f*ck up your sex life.

Say what you want about how parents shouldn't let kids cramp their style, that it's possible to have a great and healthy sex life with little people underfoot, and that moms are sexier than ever. But the truth is, sometimes kids get sick, no one sleeps, the bed is overtaken, and you have no desire for anything but getting a little shut-eye.

No reason to beat yourself up about it. (Let this be the spoiler alert: we failed, OK?)

5. Spontaneity can be fun.

That being said, this little experiment also taught me that there is a lot of merit in breaking out of the rut and trying to find more opportunities for each other. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm going to start sticking sex into my calendar, but I did learn that when you make it a priority and have fun with it, only good things can happen.


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