11 Secrets To Being Uh-mazing In Bed

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Consider this your better-sex boot camp.

Contrary to popular belief, you don't need a working knowledge of 52 sex positions or a background in porn to be ridiculously good in bed. Instead, it comes down to more subtle (and realistic) factors that you may already posses. And if you don't, we're here to help you hone the skills you really need to blow your partner's mind.

1. You're Innovative
We see the arm of a couch, you see a great prop for doggie style. We see a bra, you see a bondage tool. Being creative and looking for new ways to spice things up is crucial in a lover, says sex and relationship therapist Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples. "Someone who says 'let's dress up,' or 'let's go into the closet,' or anything that's a bit more interesting is great," says Schwartz. Get creative with these 11 places you need to have sex at least once in your life.

2. You Think About Sex — a Lot
And we don't just mean while you're getting busy or whenever you see that so-sexy-it-should-be-illegal guy at your gym. "Sex has a strong mental component," says Kerner. So pay attention when you have a sensual thought or feel randomly aroused throughout the day, and don't immediately dismiss it. "Allow yourself to feel eroticized and observe what's sexy around you," says Kerner. Still don't believe your brain and your libido are connected? Check out exactly what's going on in your brain during an orgasm.

Read the rest at Women's Health: 11 Things That Make You GREAT In Bed

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This article was originally published at Women's Health. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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