3 Magic Words That Will Make A Man Be Honest With You

By

Dating: How To Find Out What A Man Is Thinking
Make sure you aren't dating Mr. Wrong.

What if you could learn crucial information about a man BEFORE you start falling for him? You would be able to know early on if he was worth your effort or a waste of time. That information is available to you; you just need to know how to ask for it. My advice? Use the three magic words, "I'm just curious."

For instance, let's say you want to know if a guy is exclusive with you or seeing other women. When you ask him, "you're not seeing anyone else right now, are you?" It almost automatically invites dishonesty in a man because he'll feel cornered, pressured and defensive.

On the other hand, if you ask him "are you seeing anyone right now? I'm just curious." You are letting him know that you'll be OK with whatever he tells you, that you're not needy or too aggressive and that he can feel safe telling you just about anything.

In order to make a man feel he is "safe" when he shares with you, you have to have what I call the "anything is OK" attitude. Now, this doesn't mean that anything is OK for a man to do, and that you're supposed to accept anything he does and have no boundaries or limitations. The attitude is more like you thinking, "anything is OK for you to share with me, but I know what I will and will not tolerate in my life, and what I want."

If you want to inspire sincerity in a man, you must have the "anything is OK" attitude and use those three magic words to get the most honest response possible. That way, you won't waste a lot of time going on dates with "unavailable" men, men who have skeletons in their closet, aren't over their exes or are actually interested in a different kind of relationship than you are.

And here's a nice bonus: with this magic attitude, you may be able to get a man to reveal a lot more than he would ever reveal on his own without prompting. As a result, he'll be more attracted to you because he'll feel you understand and appreciate him. This is why I call this attitude "magic." It not only inspires honesty from a man, it makes him feel more connected to you at the same time.

If you've ever wanted to know what a man really thinks about dating and commitment, subscribe to Christian's free e-newsletter. He'll reveal the kind of qualities a man can't help falling for in a woman and what it takes to make him give up his "single" freedom for the love of just one woman...for the long term.

More Dating Advice on YourTango: 

Article contributed by

Christian Carter

Dating Coach

Discover the inside secrets of finding and keeping "Mr. Right" - Christian Carter’s Catch Him And Keep Him eBook takes you inside the mind of a man to deliver the hidden keys and secret strategies every woman needs to create the forever relationship of her dreams.

Subscribe to Christian’s FREE newsletter here or visit www.CatchHimAndKeepHim.com for more details.

Location: Santa Monica, CA
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by Christian Carter:

Talking Too Much About Your Relationship Hurts More Than It Helps

By

Imagine you're seeing a new man. You're spending more and more time with him, and the two of you are really hitting it off. Every time you're together, you connect and grow closer. So ... why isn't he moving things forward fast enough? Can't he see how great the two of you are together? Shouldn't you remind him? The Two Relationship ... Read more

How To Be The "Cool Girl" Of His Dreams

By

Did you know that most men decide if a woman is "girlfriend material" within a few seconds of meeting her? That's right - if you don't know how to create the right first impression with a man, then you just might get thrown into the "just a friend" category for good. That's why it's important to understand what causes a ... Read more

Want Him To Commit? 3 Things You Should Know

By

Some men aren't able to commit to a woman because they're not ready or the timing isn't right. But often, even a committed bachelor will take the plunge when he meets a woman who attracts him. These are the qualities such men are looking for: She's not looking to him to fill a job description. Want to know one of the biggest fears men ... Read more

See More

PARTNER POSTS