Neil Hilborn, a poet, was at the 2013 Rustbelt Regional Poetry Slam when he gave this heartbreaking performance. Titled "OCD" the poem concerns Hilborn finding and losing love, all because of his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The performance is as powerful as it is heartfelt, and if you don't shed at least one tear, we can't help you. So, watch the video, feel all the feels, and cry it out.
See, told you so. You're sobbing, aren't you? I certainly am.
The power of love, the ability it has to move and change us, is truly astounding. Love can build us up, and ruin us completely. It can heal, and destroy. Neil Hilborn's journey through the many stages of love is just one example of how we can be completely transformed by the love of another person.
As someone who deals with OCD on a daily basis, Hilborn's performance struck a particular chord with me. But you don't just have to be someone who carries the burden of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder to relate to this moving piece. Haven't we all been lifted up and struck down by love at one time or another? Of course we have. So if you take away anything from Hilborn's performance, let it be empathy. Not empathy for someone with a disorder, but rather empathy for the ones you love. Because you can hurt them just as easily as they can hurt you.
It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see him when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? He should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden.
You don't want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life—he insists on wearing his favorite, holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons—but you like him, plain and simple.
If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together—different opinions about religion, money or something else—you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.
Sometimes it's that easy. You feel like he understands some essential part of you that you can't explain or articulate. It's a warm, comfortable feeling—and one you should have with the person you marry.