Oh, sexting. It's just such a slippery slope, right? I mean, on one end — you run a high risk of a provocative photo loose in the digital world. But on the other… holy hotness! Let's focus more on the latter here: exchanging lusty non-words with your significant other — especially if you're in a long distance relationship — can be both a healthy and effective way to keep that spark alive.
Still, there are obviously some regulations to keep in mind here, especially since sexy pics are so common these days. In our Dating in The Digital Age survey, 43% of you said you've sexted your dates and one-third have sent nude digital photos.
Luckily, Julie Spira — YourTango expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com — has made a career out of providing such schooling; below are her list of do's and don'ts when it comes to this erotically-charged form of communication.
We highly suggest you listen up — unless, you know, you want you're you-know-what flashing up on the 'nets. And it could certainly happen… right, Kim Kardashian?
1. Have The Talk
No, not that talk (although, given you're sexting, maybe you should consider that one too.) But do hash out a mutual agreement about the privacy of these sexts. "If still uneasy, take it a step further and agree to delete the sext messages once you're together with your sweetheart," Julie explains, "Make it a requirement and hope that he doesn't have a hidden file with your sexts that he shares with his buddies."
2. Do Not (Repeat DO NOT) Go Fully Nude:
Skip the birthday suit, folks. "Things to sext could include sexy photos, lingerie shots, but never full nude photos," Julie says, "This isn't a Penthouse spread, but a more personal and private communication."
3. No Head Shots
Save your pretty face for seeing him in person. "A sexy photo (man bare-chested, woman with heavy cleavage) can include a lead shot, but anything more, should be off-limits," Julie explains, "You wouldn't want to be recognized by a nosy neighbor and have your private sexts go viral." Nope, definitely not.
4. Keep It, Um, Somewhat Classy
Rule of thumb: "If you wouldn't want your parents to see the sext, then it shouldn't be shared digitally. Remember, men undress you with their eyes, so partially clothed shots will create the same excitement without the risks of being shared with his buddies on their Facebook pages." Not exactly a photo you'd want dozens of 'likes' on. Keep Reading ...
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