5 Minutes To A Better Relationship

5 Minutes To A Better Relationship
Heartbreak, Self

Oxytocin, the "love hormone," can help you end a relationship fight in minutes.

You know that lovey-dovey feeling you get while cuddling with your significant other — when you forget all about how pissed you were that he came home late and didn't bring apology cheesecake, or how annoying it is that she always leaves little toothpaste ghosts in the bathroom sink?

That happy feeling is due to a release of oxytocin in the body. Often dubbed the "love hormone," oxytocin has a little party in your brain during all kinds of stuff, from orgasm to giving birth, facilitating that loving, bonding feeling. And it can help you end a relationship fight in minutes.

For an experiment at Zurich University, researchers brought in 47 couples aged 20-50 who were either married or had lived together for at least a year. They gave the couples either five puffs of a placebo spray or five puffs of a spray containing oxytocin, asked the couple to choose a topic of conflict in their relationship, closed the door, and let them have at it for 45 minutes. Fun!

The researchers explained that generally, women tend to show demanding behavior more frequently, while men tend to withdraw. But something magical happened during those 45 minutes that couples spent arguing in a room. In addition to no homicides reported, the research, published in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, found that when couples had sniffed oxytocin instead of the placebo, women were less demanding and more friendly, and men were more positive and more likely to engage. "In our study, oxytocin might have driven quiescence in women and social salience and approach behaviour in men, " the researchers said. Continue reading...

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