Has your sex life gotten spicier since reading '50 Shades'? If so, you aren't alone.
So, with the amount of publicitiy that the adult fiction book 50 Shades of Grey has been getting for its hot and spicy sex scenes, it was only a matter of time before readers started taking what they read...into the bedroom. It doesn't hurt that the two books released as a follow up (50 Shades Darker and 50 Shades Freed) are just as juicy as the first. Whether you love the trilogy or not, there's no question that it's had a major impact on the sex lives of men and women everywhere.
But is there a point where this phenomenon can go a bit too far? For instance, one of our readers at YourTango mentioned just how concerned he was about his wife's obsession with the book, stating "My wife brought home the book 50 Shades Of Greyand suddenly our sex life is hot again. Why are women so turned on by a book? Should I be concerned I'm not enough for her?" Sherry Amatenstein, author of The complete Marriage Counselor, attempts to explain the phenomenon that is EL James' bestselling erotic fiction trilogy. "Instead of being concerned," says Sherry, "be grateful! Your wife is saying she wants to be more sexually in sync with you; she's saying "women can like porn too, and also like fantasty." We totally agree that there is nothing wrong with being inspired to spice up your sex life!
Stepping forward with one leg keeping your toes facing forward and knees slightly bent, gently push your pelvis forward until you feel a mild stretch in your hips. Hold for 30 seconds then switch to repeat on the other side, says fitness expert Nadia Murdock.
Any move that helps to create a stronger lower body is needed in the bedroom, says Murdock. While lying on your side have your legs stacked in front of you at a 90-degree angle. Slowly lift the top leg while keeping your feet together and then release. Repeat this action for 25 sets then switch to repeat on the other side.
Kegels work the muscles of the pelvic floor. These muscles are the same ones that contract and release during orgasm, says Dr. Laura Bennett-Cook, clinical sexologist. Kegels consist of repeatedly contracting and releasing these muscles as if you were stopping yourself from peeing mid-stream. Kegels are beneficial for both men and women. Consistently doing kegels has the ability to increase your sensitivity and intensify your orgasm.
What’s good for your heart is also good for your sexy bits! Regular cardio strengthens your heart and increases your lung capacity. Both of these are ideal for increasing your stamina in the bedroom, says Bennett-Cook. Regular exercise has the ability to heighten your self-esteem and your mood — both of which help you feel sexier all over. Many times erectile dysfunction is due to poor blood circulation. Regular cardio exercise gets the blood flowing better and can greatly reverse this (what can be embarrassing) condition.
Planks are great for upping the orgasm ante. "Planking on an instable surface like the StrongBoard Balance forces you to engage more muscle groups simultaneously with a main focus on your mid-section," Mike Curry, StrongBoard Balance creator and ACE certified fitness trainer. This exercise is also great for getting those arms nice and tone.
For men, plank variations are great for stronger shoulders and arms to help a man hold you in any and every position to make sure he hits your pleasure spot just how you like it, says Curry. Men need that stamina to make sure they finish the job.
Single leg squats are also a great exercise for sexual control, says Curry. By forcing the glutes to be dominant your butt becomes tighter and stronger, a result that will not only increase your pleasure, but also have you feeling better about your body and more confident. Squat variations will benefit stronger leg muscles to ensure he can pleasure you in all those standing, manhandling positions.
Lie on your back with your knees bent and pointing at the ceiling, soles of the feet on the ground. Gently tuck your pelvis so that the pubic bone moves forward, flattening the small of your back on the floor. Release and repeat. Pelvic tilts are gentle pelvic floor exercise. Toned pelvic floor muscles increase sensitivity and blood flow, says Katrina “Rainsong” Messenger.
A yogic exercise, Mula Bhanda means “root lock” and refers to the Root Chakra, the energy vortex at the perineum. Similar to a kegel, you squeeze the pelvic sphincters in and pull them up, lifting the Pelvic Floor Muscles. Combined with the right breath techniques and its possible, with practice, to attain orgasm with this technique, says Messenger. Look, no hands!