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We've all heard it at some point on our search for love: "Love shows up when you least expect it." So, this means we should stop looking for love in order to find it. What if we applied this advice to other goals we have in our lives and the world?
Your ideal job will show up when you least expect it. You'll lose 20lbs when you least expect it. The dishwasher will repair itself when you least expect it. Our marital problems will resolve themselves when we least expect it. World peace will arrive when we least expect it. This philosophy begins to seem a little ridiculous, doesn't it?
And yet, we're all sold this ridiculous myth from a very young age that one day we'll bump into the love of our life and magically we'll know how to make it last. How's that working for you?
We know it isn't going well for most of you ... and it didn't happen for us that way either. We are all told that if we want a great career we have to set goals and work at it. If we want to be healthy, fit, and in shape, we have to be intentional, eat consciously, and be purposeful about it.
Yet, the most important thing of all — love, is constantly sold to us as a myth. We are told that everything will fall into place accidentally and magically.
Love, like anything we desire in our lives, takes intentional action. We can't expect it to happen by reading more articles on the internet. We can't expect it to happen by sitting at home and visualizing our ideal mate and then turning on the TV and vegging out for the night. We can't expect it to happen when we least expect it.
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