Need help to convince your man that no glove equals no love? Our expert has the solution!
Is your guy trying to convince you to go bareback during sex? Not willing to take chances with your sexual health? When it comes to being intimate with your partner, comprosing health and safety should never be an option.
YourTango expert and psychologist Dr. Dorree Lynn discusses how to take safe sex matters into your own (cough) If you need help to convince your man that no glove equals no love, she offers the perfect solution that will be enjoyable for both of you.
Next time, give him an offer he won't be able to refuse!
Hi I’m Dr. Dorree Lynn with Ask an Expert answering your love and relationship questions. Today’s question is: Dr. Dorree, what is the best way to tell a guy that you will have sex with him but only if he wears a condom?
First of all, people do have to wear condoms because one out of five people- you have that?- one out of five at all ages have some STD or any other disease and you don’t want that. One night of fun is not worth risking your life. You can be a little bit forward and you can carry your own condoms. There are great condom holders that you can carry. Ladies, trust me on this. Beautiful compacts that you can carry. And you can tell a guy you really want to go to bed with him but it’s not worth risking either your life or his. And if he cares about you why wouldn't he? I don’t know anybody who really likes condoms but in today’s world they are a must.
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Stepping forward with one leg keeping your toes facing forward and knees slightly bent, gently push your pelvis forward until you feel a mild stretch in your hips. Hold for 30 seconds then switch to repeat on the other side, says fitness expert Nadia Murdock.
Any move that helps to create a stronger lower body is needed in the bedroom, says Murdock. While lying on your side have your legs stacked in front of you at a 90-degree angle. Slowly lift the top leg while keeping your feet together and then release. Repeat this action for 25 sets then switch to repeat on the other side.
Kegels work the muscles of the pelvic floor. These muscles are the same ones that contract and release during orgasm, says Dr. Laura Bennett-Cook, clinical sexologist. Kegels consist of repeatedly contracting and releasing these muscles as if you were stopping yourself from peeing mid-stream. Kegels are beneficial for both men and women. Consistently doing kegels has the ability to increase your sensitivity and intensify your orgasm.
What’s good for your heart is also good for your sexy bits! Regular cardio strengthens your heart and increases your lung capacity. Both of these are ideal for increasing your stamina in the bedroom, says Bennett-Cook. Regular exercise has the ability to heighten your self-esteem and your mood — both of which help you feel sexier all over. Many times erectile dysfunction is due to poor blood circulation. Regular cardio exercise gets the blood flowing better and can greatly reverse this (what can be embarrassing) condition.
Planks are great for upping the orgasm ante. "Planking on an instable surface like the StrongBoard Balance forces you to engage more muscle groups simultaneously with a main focus on your mid-section," Mike Curry, StrongBoard Balance creator and ACE certified fitness trainer. This exercise is also great for getting those arms nice and tone.
For men, plank variations are great for stronger shoulders and arms to help a man hold you in any and every position to make sure he hits your pleasure spot just how you like it, says Curry. Men need that stamina to make sure they finish the job.
Single leg squats are also a great exercise for sexual control, says Curry. By forcing the glutes to be dominant your butt becomes tighter and stronger, a result that will not only increase your pleasure, but also have you feeling better about your body and more confident. Squat variations will benefit stronger leg muscles to ensure he can pleasure you in all those standing, manhandling positions.
Lie on your back with your knees bent and pointing at the ceiling, soles of the feet on the ground. Gently tuck your pelvis so that the pubic bone moves forward, flattening the small of your back on the floor. Release and repeat. Pelvic tilts are gentle pelvic floor exercise. Toned pelvic floor muscles increase sensitivity and blood flow, says Katrina “Rainsong” Messenger.
A yogic exercise, Mula Bhanda means “root lock” and refers to the Root Chakra, the energy vortex at the perineum. Similar to a kegel, you squeeze the pelvic sphincters in and pull them up, lifting the Pelvic Floor Muscles. Combined with the right breath techniques and its possible, with practice, to attain orgasm with this technique, says Messenger. Look, no hands!