6 Ways To Beat Boredom In A Relationship (And Why It's Important)


Six tips to keep a long-term relationship lively and interesting, from sex expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D.

Coupledom can be a fragile thing. There are threats everywhere, and even the strongest relationships need to be monitored and protected on a daily basis. From flirtatious friendships and infidelity, to blowouts over friends, relatives and money, relationships are all too easily toppled by big issues. But it's not just the biggies we need to worry about. There are also smaller, more insidious threats to relationship satisfaction—threats we take for granted as being a normal part of a relationship. 

According to a new study conducted by Good in Bed, (with the support of K-Y Brand), the biggest threat to long-term relationship satisfaction may be boredom. In our survey of 3,341 people in monogamous relationships (1,418 men and 1,923 women), we found that a full 25 percent of those surveyed were bored in their current relationship. Beyond that, another 25 percent of respondents reported being on the brink of becoming bored. That's nearly 50 percent of all couples, and boredom is basically like an attack on our relationship's immune system—once weakened, we're all the more susceptible to a cascade of ailments. For example, 20 percent of respondents had been unfaithful to their partner at some point as a result of being bored. 7 Ways to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

Certain relationship milestones can exacerbate boredom. Top factors cited include:

  • Getting older (38.5%)
  • Having kids (32.2%)
  • Moving in together (15.6%)
  • Marriage (13.8%)
  • Getting pregnant (8%)

So how do you maintain optimum relationship health and protect yourself from the boredom virus?

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