No To Oral Sex? You Can Still Have A Great Sex Life

No To Oral Sex?
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Foreplay is an important part of having a satisfying sexual experience. It is not just about the size of the male partner's penis or how flexible your female partner is. Building up to the final act is an vital part of the whole sexual experience. If you and your partner are pretty much going straight to the sexual intercourse, your sex life will become predictable, and possibly leading to sexual frustration in one or both of the partners. 

Oral sex can be very pleasurable and cause the male or female to achieve an orgasm even prior to sexual intercourse. While the majority of men and women who receive oral enjoy it, there are are number of individuals who do not like to give or receive it. 

Why Do Individuals Not Enjoy Receiving or Giving Oral Sex?

Women who do not like receiving oral sex may feel self conscious about how she tastes or smells down there. Some women may also feel uncomfortable about how their vagina looks, and may be more comfortable receiving oral if the lights are turned off. If your female partner shows discomfort in receiving oral, ease her into it. Let her know that you enjoy pleasuring her that way and while you are doing it, express your happiness in doing it by telling her "You taste so good" or "I love making you have an orgasm this way." You can also suggest using a flavored lubricant to make her feel more comfortable if she is worried about how she tastes or smells down there. If you partner is absolutely against it, respect her wishes and do not do it.

 

Although the majority of men do enjoy receiving oral sex, believe it or not, there are men who prefer not to receive it. Similar to women, he may feel self conscious about the way he tastes. He may also worry about making the female gag. He may also feel a little vulnerable, or be afraid of accidently biting or discomfort of the teeth scraping against his sensitive penis.

Men and women do not like giving oral sex for a few reasons. In men, he may not like the taste or smell of the female genitalia. Or, he may feel that he is not doing it properly and feel uncomfortable about doing it. The female may not like giving oral sex because similar to the male, she does not like the taste. When it comes to giving a male oral sex, some partners may have a gag reflex, and makes the partner feel nauseous or the sensation of having to vomit. Some partners may also feel that it is uncomfortable to perform oral sex on the man as he or she may be unable to open their mouth wide enough or may experience jaw discomfort.

If you are in a relationship in which you prefer not to give or receive oral sex, there are other types of foreplay that you can engage in to make your sexual experience satisfying. Instead of your tongue or mouth, explore one another with your hands or fingers. You can still stimulate your male or female partner's genital area with your hands and fingers. You can also incorporate a sex toy or vibrator during foreplay. For the female pleasure, there are tongue shaped toys that can simulate oral sex. For the male's pleasure, you can use a male masturbation product to simulate oral sex and use it while you are stroking your partner's penis. A vibrator used on a low setting can also be used to stimulate the partner's nipples, testicles, penis, and the vaginal area.

Remember, it is important to respect your partner and his or her comfort level.  

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