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Women, Wear Sexy Underwear… Or Don't

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When it comes to lingerie, who do you dress for?

As you all know, fellas (bros, dudes, men and boys included) are relatively visual* when it comes to arousal. And so, girly mags, strip clubs, wet clothing contests and Internet pornography are quite popular with us. Unsurprisingly, we also appreciate a good-looking pair of pantiesTop Tips for Buying Lingerie

I have no way of knowing if your drawers are from La Perla, Fredericks Of Hollywood, American Apparel or K-Mart. Things like lace, mesh and silk are really nice, but I generally prefer to see them on the floor, lampshade, ceiling fan blade or neatly folded and tucked into a drawer. In fact, I assume that most guys don't actually get hot and bothered by something that looks as if it may double as a doily. We're turned on because we've been led to believe that you feel extra sexy, confident and/or dangerous when you're decked out in Victoria's most scandalous secret. The effort on your part to look sexy, action, cool is appreciated. 

Somewhere along the way, an older brother convinced us that when a lady wears a pair of exotic underwear, she's looking for action. As a result, since there are those of us who are not so great with body language, innuendo and general romantic semaphore, we tend to base any romantic assumptions on whether or not you're wearing "get up on me" underoos. So we heartily endorse the use of lingerie as eyeball aphrodisiac.  Lingerie Men Love

But should you (we, America, Earth) really need sexy underpants? If my logic holds up, ladies wear fancy panties because they feel sexy and want gents to find them sexy, and guys like fancy drawers because they've been told that it makes women feel sexy and it seems like some effort has been put into the whole thing. It's one of those Catch-22, chicken-and-egg, Prisoner's Dilemna or Sophie's Choice scenarios. Still, until we're ready to have the conversation about who's actually in favor of these fun-dergarments—dudes or chicks—we'll keep the clothing industry in the money, and anxiously await their newest innovation. Girl Vs. Guy Hot: Whom Do You Dress For?

*Note: We also appreciate auditory, tactile and olfactory stimulus. Frankly, any sensual encouragement, even psychic, can result in a boner.