Breasts: women have them, men love them, but clearly women and men don't think about them in the same way.
To you (ladies), they're obviously part of your body, for better or worse. Sometimes you're proud of them, sometimes unhappy and most of you know how to use them to your advantage (at least a little).
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To us guys, however, your breasts are the object of something between strong interest and out-and-out obsession, depending upon the guy (and the set). They make us fixate, double-take and lose our trains of thought. They make our eye contact stray during conversation. They make us sigh involuntarily. They make us gawk. Scientific Study Finds Men Like Looking At Breasts
The thing is, most women don't realize that our borderline mania isn't very complicated: we simply like boobs—a lot. And we like them in pretty much all shapes and sizes. Women are constantly asking me whether large breasts are better, why fake breasts are appealing to so many men and what the big deal is, as if there's a giant mystery surrounding why men are obsessed with boobs. I don't think there's much mystery, though, and all these questions are pretty easy to answer.
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The most obvious reason they're a big deal is biological. To me, and to probably almost every other hetero man on the planet, breasts (and lips, and legs, and eyes, and hair, and all forms of women's beauty) are simply naturally appealing—we're born to like them. We see them, we appreciate them, they arouse us and maybe we ogle a little (if we're not well-mannered).
That said, to most men there is something even more magical about breasts than our biological imperative to love them. I once heard a woman say that if you wanted to distract a man, simply don't wear a bra—regardless of whether your boobs are large or small. And it's true! There's an enormous thrill in spotting the outline of someone's areola or the push against the clothing that reveals a breast's shape. It's partly because in America—and many other places—showing breasts publicly is taboo. But it's also because breasts are a constant tease. We can see them there beneath your clothes. We don't know exactly what they look like, but we can gather enough data to have a pretty good sense of what's there. (And for more on this, come back for my next Male Take: Breasts, Part II—Do you know what you show?)