January 1st is one of the few times of the year that truly feels like the first day of the rest of your life. It is also a great excuse to do a little relationship maintenance, under the guide of New Year's resolutions.
This year we recruited a team of experts, including Mars Venus Success Coach Melodie Tucker, Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz, psychotherapist and author Elisabeth LaMotte, Dating Makeover Coach Kira Sabin, and Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love to advise couples on how to make 2010 their best year yet. Use these five tips as a guide, but make the process your own.
1. Take inventory.
"It can be a fun and great conversation to sit down and ask each other 'What do you want the next year to look like? How do we get there together?'" Kira Sabin says. The more specific the goal, the better. "Many times people are very certain of what they don't want, but aren't really sure of what they do want. And often, men and women want and different things. A good starting point is for each person to define what their 'perfect' relationship looks and feels like, then compare notes with their partner so they can, as a couple, come to a consensus on what they want to change and in what order," says Melodie Tucker.
2. Lay it all out there.