Ever feel anxious around your significant other? Check out these 20 confidence boosters.
There are many ways to feel more confident about your relationship, but here are 20 to get your started. Take the reins or the bull by the horns (or whatever else comes to mind), and start feeling more confident.
1. Don't snoop unless you really have good reason not to trust him.
Emails and voicemails taken out of context can cause a lot of unnecessary heartache.
2. Give him a little friendly competition.
It doesn't hurt for him to know that your tall, built, wildly successful artist friend from college periodically tells you you're the one who got away and that it's the biggest regret of his life.
3. Skip the games and be up front.
If something's bothering you, tell him directly. Guys don't know what to make of it, and it shakes them up and gives you the upper hand.
4. Be confident in yourself.
Finish your degree, apply for the better job, or write that novel. If you have a good sense of your own self-worth, you'll be confident in your relationship.
5. Set some ground rules at the beginning.
If you both agree that Friday is the night for hanging out with your friends separately, it won't be a conflict when he wants to play poker or you want to take a short road trip with some girlfriends.
6. Don't let the relationship progress too far without discussing major issues.
Having children, religious differences, whether either of you is willing to relocate for a job — these can be landmines in the future.
7. Exercise often.
It reduces stress, releases endorphins, and makes you hot.
8. Be affectionate.
9. Avoid the temptation to endlessly analyze details.
If he wears the shirt his ex-girlfriend bought him, it may just mean that it's the only clean white shirt he has that day.
10. Similarly, avoid discussing relationship issues with paranoid girlfriends.
11. Have lots of outside interests apart from the relationship.
When you start to feel insecure it helps to have something else to obsess over.
12. Present your best self to your partner and the world.
Don't always go out dressed in sweats and don't sleep in ratty t-shirts every single night. The old adage is true: when you look good, you probably feel good.
13. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations.
Every time you find yourself thinking, "I don't deserve this guy," change it to, "I deserve a wonderful relationship and more."
14. Don't let yourself become dependent.
Know how to unclog the sink and change a tire. Skills are confidence boosters.
15. Let go of emotional baggage.
If your grandma told you your sister was the pretty one or your dance teacher said you weren't graceful enough to be in the front row, it doesn't mean your boyfriend thinks you're homely or a klutz now.
16. Be yourself.
Trying to maintain a façade is exhausting and confidence-eroding.
17. Similarly, let him be himself.
If he feels like you're always picking at him, he'll strike back and it won't feel good.
18. Don't compare your relationship to other people's relationships.
The grass isn't always greener and you never know what's going on behind closed doors.
19. Memorize his credit card numbers.
You'll always have the capacity for really serious revenge.
20. And if all else fails...
There's always handcuffs.
Written by Nancy Lichtenstein
This article was originally published at The Frisky. Reprinted with permission from the author.