3 Tips For Sex After Menopause
You can have good sex after menopause. Three tips for dealing with your changing body.
Many women worry about sex after menopause—will it hurt? Will my sexual appetite vanish? The reality is that, while your body does change, you can have a vigorous, healthy sex life as you age. Today we came across an excellent, informative article about enjoying post-menopausal sex. Here are three tips for dealing with the your new body.
Vaginal Dryness
Lower levels of the sex hormones estrogen and progesterone can make sex uncomfortable, and can cause tiny tears in your anatomy. Combat this with lubricants, regular sex (both with a partner and alone), extra foreplay, and, if necessary, prescription estrogen cream. Self Pleasure For Beginners
Incontinence
After 65, 10 percent of women have trouble holding it in, especially in moments of intense physical activity like sex. Kegel exercises are the best way to cure incontinence—it may sound strange to exercise your pelvic muscles, but it really does help. If Kegels don't work you can try biofeedback or medication.
Less Interest In Sex
Your desire can plummet because have have less testosterone in your body, or because of other age-related medical issues. Make sure you're not taking unnecessary drugs, as some (including SSRIs) can inhibit sexual response. Talk to your doctor about taking a break from your medication for a few days and see if your desire returns.
Take the focus off orgasm and enjoy each other's bodies without intercourse. Sensual massage, sexual touching, kissing, talking about fantasies and masturbating together are ways of being sexual without the pressure to "have sex." Advice: My Wife Won't Tell Me Her Fantasies
If you have no sexual desire, try to get aroused with methods you may have never considered before. Read erotic literature, browse an online sex shop, Google a phrase that used to turn you on or check out the sexual self help section of a bookstore or library. You may tap into erotic potential you didn't know you had.
Check out the article for expanded explanations. And remember,
'Good sex' is different for many people and in later years, many are happy to say goodbye to the hormone driven sex of their youth and live with 'good enough' sex that focuses on emotional and quiet physical pleasures, which may or may not include orgasm. The key here is to identify what is pleasurable for you and then look at what is possible given your situation.
Discussion
Good sex after menopause, or even just after childbirth, can be a problem and it's linked to the same cause that gives us those embarrassing little leaks! But help is at hand. In the vast majority of cases you can solve the problem with pelvic floor muscle exercises. But don't believe those that tell you you just need to do a few 'lifts' each day while vacuuming or standing in line. Squeezing thin air will never get you anywhere. The vaginal muscle is like any other - use it or lose it - so you need to exercise correctly like the great man Arnold Kegel advised. That means squeezing the correct muscles against resistance and working as hard as you can for 300 squeezes each day. It's worth it!
As for electronic devices that twitch the muscle, most people eventually admit that they are a complete waste of time. They are OK if you have absolutely no idea where your muscles are and how to squeeze them and for those that think life is all about quick fixes. If you have any idea about exercise then you would know that the basic rule is 'No pain, no gain'. Buying an electronic device is like buying an exercise bike with a motor instead of pedals - what's the point!
Clinical trials have consistently confirmed that electronic devices and vaginal weights are significantly inferior to just squeezing thin air.
The PelvicToner was designed to meet all the basic principles that Arnold Kegel said were essential and as a result over 90% of PelvicToner users become more aware of their pelvic floor within a week and 80% say their continence problems are sorted within a month. Check out www.betterkegelexercises.com to read more.
