5 Can't-Lose Dating Tips
How to make a smoldering impression and make the dating game work for you.
Landing Mr. Right isn't easy… even for an intelligent and successful woman. Weeding through the players, the losers and the psychos can be hopelessly frustrating, and when you finally find a man with potential, you'll usually find fifty other hopeful bachelorettes competing for his attention.
If you want to win at the game of love, you'll need to quickly stand out from the rest of the pack and captivate your quarry from the start. To make sure this happens, I've put together a list of five proven strategies to help you make a smoldering impression and blow away the competition.
Strategy #1: It's all in the eyes
In her book, How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You, author Leil Lowndes claims that the act of staring into someone's eyes can cause their nervous system to release a chemical called phenylethylamine (or PEA for short) which our bodies secrete when we fall in love. Studies show that gazing into your date's eyes for about two minutes is all it takes to produce passionate feelings for you, so take advantage of this little secret to flood his bod with the love drug. 10 Quick Ways To Size Him Up
Strategy #2: Let them know they have a shot
Studies show that finding out that someone we like, likes us back, actually intensifies our romantic feelings towards them. Yes, we actually become more attracted to people who are attracted to us. The hope (that a relationship may develop) allows our feelings to become stronger so be sure to let your date know that you're attainable. 4 Sneaky Ways To Put The Moves On A Guy
Now most of the time, it can be awkward (and detrimental) to tell your date, flat out, that he makes Mr. Big look like Mr. Bean, so show your interest non-verbally, instead (using compliments, frequent touching, attention, laughter, etc.). Now, since some guys won't always catch your hints, it's a good idea to throw out some direct compliments, as well. Two great phrases to use are:
- "I have so much fun when we hang out."
- "I feel really comfortable opening up to you."
Strategy #3: Be sure to qualify
One of the best ways to let someone know that you like them is by letting them know exactly WHY you like them. Try saying, "I love how you always open doors for me and walk on the outside of the curb. Some women may not appreciate it, but that kind of attention makes me feel really special," or "I think it's great that you spend so much time with your family. You obviously know how to make time for the important things."
The act of qualifying not only shows that you have standards but it also makes your date feel that he has earned your attraction/affection. If he likes you, he'll be enjoying the process of winning you over so these thoughtful compliments will encourage him to keep on wowing you. Essential (Obvious) Flirting Tips
Strategy #4: Observe the Law of Association
Discussion
I've been a widow for 7 years, had joined a singles group, this guy and I decided to meet, he had a doctors appointment and wanted me to go with him to it. OK, no problem. We were to meet at a nearby store. I was out the door, when a thought came over me and I went to put a dab of perfune on my neck, didn't want to at first, kinda of argued with myself, but I did it anyway. Left for the meeting with this guy and saw him in his truck, recognized him from his picture. Parked my car, he got out of his truck, saw me get out of my car and saw how graceful I was getting out of my car, see I'm 5 " taller than him, but that didn't seem to bother him. He walked over to me, took me by the hands and looked me upand down, saw my eyes and later told me he was smitten with me. He put my hands around his waist and he put his arms around my shoulders, kissed me on the neck, right where I'd put that dab of perfume and I kissed him on his cheek. We talked about not being able to have our date because of his truck causing trouble, he didn't want me stuck with him and his broke down truck. So he and I agreed to wait till the next day for a real date. No problem. I got to my ar, he walked ovre to me and took my face into his hands and brought my face ot his and he softly kissed me Goodbye Something told him not to leave me without that goodbye kiss. He late called me and told me "you must've had some perfume on your neck" I said yes, why? He said, cause it's been driving me freakin nuts, but he said it in a comical and complimentary way. We've been nuts about each other ever since. So, if your looking for a secret formula for the first date, try being yourself, leave a lasting impression, like a DAB of perfume, don't take a bath in your perfume, you want him close to you , dab it on, taking a bath over powers people. You want him to snuggle, dab it on. He will smell the scent, just by being near you, don't make him wave his hands and get rid of the over powering smell going up his nose. Make him get closer to you with the DAB. I promise you, he will get closer to see if it's you that smells so GOOD.
This goes for the guys as well, don't take a shower in your after shave or cologne, just a dab will do you. You want her close to you, she will get closer to you to smell your dab. And another thing, use an imagination when you are dating. Don't show off too much flesh to anyone. Let him use his imagination, it's good for them. And, guys, be well groomed, don't look slopy to attract a lovely lady, dress smart, dress shirt, can be open at the two top buttons or nice looking t shirt, if it's a casual date, but that dress shirt will impress a lot more. Think about it.
