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27 Ways To Say No To Sex

How to hold off on doing the deed, at least tonight.

"I would really like to invite you up but...

... I get really, really, really, really attached to someone after we sleep together. Really attached."
... I am at present an impenetrable fortress of Spanx."
... I'm not ready to tell you about my herpes status."
... I'm not ready to be disappointed by what appears to be your smaller than average member."

Have you been in this situation before? You're not a prude, but sometimes there are any number of reasons why you're not willing or able to go for the deed on a particular night. And maybe it's a good thing. Does Casual Sex Screw Up Emotional Intimacy?

Why? Because let's face it: waiting to have sex—regardless of religious concerns or affectations of "being hard to get" or whatever reason you have—puts you in control of the situation and heightens both the desire and anticipation of the inevitable. What's more, it also gives you the opportunity to get to know him better. Always a good thing, right?

An article from AskMen.com seems to think the sweet spot is sometime after the third date but before month three:

There's a good chance that this kind of gal has a great sex drive. And it's great that she took the time to get to know you, and let you get to know her—outside the bedroom."

So what exactly you can tell a guy on a first date (or second or third) that would a) indicate future interest but b) delay the sex act for at least that night? Red-Hot Reasons To Skip First-Date Sex

Here are a few lines that you might want to try out if the opportunity arises:

Things you should probably not say:

  • My vagina dentata has been acting up lately. It's quite hungry. Love and (Safe) Sex: How Do You Have The STD Talk?
  • You really think the date went that well?
  • I'm pretty tired, I guess I could just lie there and try not to fall asleep, I guess, if that's what you'd like.
  • Good luck getting through my extra-strength support panty hose.
  • Um, I'm not ready to be disappointed... yet.

Things you could say:

Can you relate?

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Christan Marashio Single AndThatswhyyouresingle.com
Posted August 17, 2009

The last thing a woman should say to a man is "We're not having sex tonight." Her actions should say it all for her. When she makes a declaration liek that, men take that a sa personal challenge to get them in to bed.

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Claire Daniel Single singular, not single
Posted August 17, 2009

Interesting point, Christian.

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Symian Complicated Thinking hard about love
Posted August 14, 2009

I never give any reason beyond, "If it's THAT important, here's the money for dinner", but I don't feel like there's any set period of time beyond making sure everyone is tested.

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