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10 Quick Ways To Size Him Up

Top 10 tips for forming first impressions.

1. IT'S A CHEMICAL ATTRACTION
Pheromones, nature's sniffable love potion #9, provide us with important information about compatibility. Though aftershave or cologne can mask a man's pheromones, a recent study showed that people tend to pick perfumes similar to their body's natural odor.

"Perfumes enhance one's own scent and, thus, entice members of the opposite sex," says biological psychologist Dr. Nick Neave of England's Northumbria University. So if you like a man's cologne, it could be a sign that you're compatible—at least biologically.

2. MR. BIG STUFF

According to Michael Marinoff, a bartender at New York's Maritime Hotel, the modern Casanova wears many disguises. "Players have become much more subtle," he says. "It's all about fusion."

If a guy looks like he's trying to merge many styles (e.g. a Brooks Brothers shirt with the sleeves ripped off), he could be attempting to multiply his options. If the conversation turns intimate too quickly, run for cover. The quickest way of detecting a player? "He buys you a shot of Southern Comfort and lime or a Red Bull and vodka," the man-about-town's drinks of the moment.

3. IF IT WALKS LIKE A DUCK ...

We can absorb as many as 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than a minute, says body language expert Patti Wood, and can form impressions in as little as one-fortieth of a second with an accuracy rate of up to 80 percent. So, check him out.

An overly broad stance could mean he's domineering. Are his feet pointing toward you? As Wood says, "Where the feet go, the heart follows." The timing of a smile is revealing, too. If he smiles before he speaks, he feels good about you; if his grin follows his speech, he could be faking it.

4. PERP TALK

For the women of the 78th Police Precinct of New York City, spotting a shady character comes down to "Gut feeling, with both men and perps." Signals of sketchiness include lack of eye contact and fidgeting.

If his eyes roam over your body instead of resting on your face, you can probably guess his motives. And if he changes his gait or begins to perspire profusely upon spotting a cop, watch out—"Oh, do they sweat."

5. CARNAL FOREKNOWLEDGE
"In 10 seconds," says Sheldon Burman, director and founder of Chicago's Male Sexual Dysfunction Clinic, "I can tell you his sexual orientation, I can tell you if he's an enthusiastic sexual participant, I can tell you if he's seething with rage."

Short of scheduling an appointment with Dr. Burman, how can amateurs judge a potential bedmate? Warning signals include a sallow complexion, labored breathing, shaky hands, poor coordination, or the general appearance of poor health. According to Burman, "if they look unwell, they're probably not functioning sexually."

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Roody D Single
Posted December 5, 2008

I don't think it was Burneda's Fault, she just didn't trust her gut. But to say she "deserve it".
Is not fair to her. He was the one who lied, not only her but his wife.

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Posted November 30, 1999

Burneda, u get what u deserve. what are you doing on someone else's turf? Get your own man and leave the married ones alone

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Posted November 30, 1999

Single female teachers live in confusing times and these messages seem to be excellent source of advice . Getting thru classes without having a male student hit on you is at issue but it's a way to make my boyfriend jealous . That a student admits he wanted to have sex with me whenever he saw me by the way made him also say he wanted to kiss me so I asked where , LOL !
Now he invited me to BALI so I guess its
a way to get to know him outside the classroom environment which at times is so sterile. Dating a student seems to be the norm so it's finally my turn to take a shot at it ... Oh -la-la !

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Posted November 30, 1999

Single female teachers live in confusing times and these messages seem to be excellent source of advice . Getting thru classes without having a male student hit on you is at issue but it's a way to make my boyfriend jealous . That a student admits he wanted to have sex with me whenever he saw me by the way made him also say he wanted to kiss me so I asked where , LOL !
Now he invited me to BALI so I guess its
a way to get to know him outside the classroom environment which at times is so sterile. Dating a student seems to be the norm so it's finally my turn to take a shot at it ... Oh -la-la !

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Posted November 30, 1999

Sorry to say but you got what you deserved. I'm so sick of sleazeballs getting away with this, but for you women who overlook the guys that are "too nice" or "sort of boring" always get you just desserts.

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Posted November 30, 1999

I agree with the posted topics. I met a guy who had a personality out of this world. He had sexuality out of this world; however, I was evaluating him in mind and i was thinking how much fun he really was, but I sensed something was wrong. He asked me why he always calls me, and yet he also bragged about all the women he had.So there was red flag number one, I still continued to sleep with him because the sex was so good but guess what ?I still got attatched and I still got hurt, he returned to his wife without informing me aswell .So go with your instinct we all have one from the moment we meet someone we know if we are playing with fire. Dont just sit there and wait for them to screw you over. Dont engage in the relationship. Dont do it no matter how much charm they have. You may get some good sex out of it but that's it!

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