Key To Finding A Good Man? Self-Respect

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Video Vixen Karrine Steffans urges women to value themselves if they want to find Mr. Right.

If you're at all familiar with former video vixen Karrine "Superhead" Steffans' past escapades, as chronicled in her New York Times bestselling memoirs Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries, then you might wonder how she can get away declaring that the way to find, seduce, and keep the man you want is through self-respect. But she knows what she's talking about, and you can be sure that she has more than one tantalizing tip to offer in her new book The Vixen Manual.

Dedicated to her husband Darius McCray, aka Family Matters' Eddie Winslow, Ms. Steffans draws upon her own trial-and-error dating experiences with the likes of Usher, Jay-z and consummate playboy Bill Maher to cover every aspect of a woman's search for the right mate. From learning how to appreciate being single to what it really means to "settle" for the right man, Steffans advice will absolutely have you laughing out loud and (seriously) snapping your fingers "oh yes" on more then one occasion.

 

In this excerpt, Steffans lays out some ground rules to help you get on your way. First up: All men are not dogs, because if they were, we'd all be bitches. And we know that's not true, right ladies?

From The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce, and Keep the Man You Want by Karrine Steffans. Copyright 2009 Corinthian Order. Published by Grand Central. Available wherever books are sold. All rights reserved.

We each attract a certain type of man, depending on how we carry ourselves. Don't expect to have a respectful man if you, for instance, curse like a sailor. Such behavior always reflects more negatively upon you than it does to those you're cursing. As for other important aspects of your life, if you don't have any goals, principles, power, or worth, then what makes you believe you can attract a man who has any of those qualities? You are what you attract, whether you like it or not.