Quiz: Do You Fall For Bad Boys?
Do you have the bad boy bug? How to know and how to remedy.
Two men walk into a bar. One man swaggers. He has a strong jaw, an unsettling gaze, and an urge to order whiskey straight up. The other man … um, who cares?
Ah, bad boys: the eternal temptation. They've been besting the likes of feisty heroines for centuries: Virgil's Dido, Shakespeare's Helena, Jane Austen's Elizabeth Bennett, Margaret Mitchell's Scarlett O'Hara, Gossip Girl’s Blair Woodward. But do bad boys—in the immortal words of Gloria Estefan—really make us feel so good? Or are we setting ourselves up for failure, overlooking the perfect mate in favor of, well, losers?
Take the quiz:
Like 'em naughty? Answer true or false.
__ 1. Infatuation is the best part of a relationship.
__ 2. Challenge excites me.
__ 3. I long for excitement in my life.
__ 4. There’s nothing more exciting than sexual tension.
__ 5. I eat when I know I shouldn't.
__ 6. I am addicted to diet drinks.
__ 7. I fall in love quickly.
__ 8. There is a bad girl side of me.
__ 9. I have a history of drinking, shopping, or working too much.
__ 10. I crave chocolate.
__ 11. Even in short-term relationships, breakups can devastate me.
__ 12. When a guy really loves me I tend to take it for granted.
__ 13. I tend to get bored in relationships.
__ 14. I have a negative history with more than one male in my life.
__ 15. I can easily get restless in a relationship.
__ 16. When I meet a nice guy I tend to think of him more as a friend than lover.
__ 17. I am happier when I am falling in love than at any other time.
__ 18. I have been attracted to two or more unavailable men in my life.
__ 19. I have had an affair.
__ 20. I have had more than one affair.
__ 21. I have had many disappointments with men.
__ 22. Over time, I doubt a man's love for me.
__ 23. It seems like certain guys cast a spell over me.
__ 24. Bad boys are sexually exciting.
__ 25. I have continued to date a guy my friends have warned me about.
__ 26. Good guys are rare.
__ 27. Even when I know a guy isn't good for me, I can't always resist his charm.
__ 28. My friends would say I'm attracted to bad boys.
__ 29. I’ve gone back to a relationship against my better judgment.
__ 30. I have continued to date a guy after he has been abusive to me.
Scoring Key
These questions are weighted in terms of severity. The more true answers you have going down the list, the more susceptible you are to bad boys.
Questions 1-10 True answers in this category are no big deal unless you make a habit of it.
Questions 11-20 These questions are much more indicative of susceptibility. If you answered true to items 11, 12, or 13, you may be able to get away with it—but any true answers from 14 to 20 mean you are on the Bad Boy Hit List.
Questions 21-30 If you answered true to any of these, you cannot date without parental permission, or at least with your closest friends' permission. You run the risk of overlooking the nice guy right in front of your face.
We sat down with Pat Love to get to the bottom of every woman’s favorite mistake.
Discussion
To the lady that says she is 41 and still single, savvy and getting all the wrong men. Well quit hanging out at the bars, try online dating. The so called "bad boys" are the young to mid 20 age guys that have not grown up and not into the real world. The "bad boys" that were are now grown and realize that "bad boys" are either just a facade or so dysfunctional that they themselves have a lot of problems. i think your just looking in the wrong place and need to look elsewhere. The so called "bad boys" that are now grown up and in their 30's come to realize that grown up men don't go getting in fights, don't act like punks, don't go grab women's asses blah blah blah we "bad boys" that have grown up and out of that phase have been there done that and are mature. The "bad boys" and yes there are still some that never grow up and always act immature and that comes from either a bad home or they have some serious issues. But the "bad boys" that have grown up and out of the stage are the ones that were acting like that 1. because they are in college and that's how a lot of college guys act and 2nd they are just acting like that because they are out of there parents house and trying new and different things.
But the grown up "bad boys" that were "bad boys" including myself realize once grown up and in their early 30's that women prefer sophisticated men that treat women right but yet they still have a backbone/spine. Women that are older and still like the "bad boys" is immature themselves and have not grown up yet. Let's ask a question here: how many men in their 30's get into fights? How many men in their 30's go around grabbing womens asses? None!! Men that are in their 30's and grown up know and realize that if they act like that they will either be told by other men to grow the hell up, be told they are acting immature and be embarrassed, be laughed at by their coworkers (and coworkers will be like who is that immature boy). You just don't ever see men that are in there 30's and older get into fights etc etc etc and if you do they are the loosers and usually the alcoholic drunk always sitting at the bar that has no life always complaining and looks for a fight. So women that want the "bad boys" is just a phase and once women get mature like in their really late 20's to early 30's they start wanting the nicer guys, start thinking about marriage and family.
To the lady that says she is 41 and still single, savvy and getting all the wrong men. Well quit hanging out at the bars, try online dating. The so called "bad boys" are the young to mid 20 age guys that have not grown up and not into the real world. The "bad boys" that were are now grown and realize that "bad boys" are either just a facade or so dysfunctional that they themselves have a lot of problems. i think your just looking in the wrong place and need to look elsewhere. The so called "bad boys" that are now grown up and in their 30's come to realize that grown up men don't go getting in fights, don't act like punks, don't go grab women's asses blah blah blah we "bad boys" that have grown up and out of that phase have been there done that and are mature. The "bad boys" and yes there are still some that never grow up and always act immature and that comes from either a bad home or they have some serious issues. But the "bad boys" that have grown up and out of the stage are the ones that were acting like that 1. because they are in college and that's how a lot of college guys act and 2nd they are just acting like that because they are out of there parents house and trying new and different things.
But the grown up "bad boys" that were "bad boys" including myself realize once grown up and in their early 30's that women prefer sophisticated men that treat women right but yet they still have a backbone/spine. Women that are older and still like the "bad boys" is immature themselves and have not grown up yet. Let's ask a question here: how many men in their 30's get into fights? How many men in their 30's go around grabbing womens asses? None!! Men that are in their 30's and grown up know and realize that if they act like that they will either be told by other men to grow the hell up, be told they are acting immature and be embarrassed, be laughed at by their coworkers (and coworkers will be like who is that immature boy). You just don't ever see men that are in there 30's and older get into fights etc etc etc and if you do they are the loosers and usually the alcoholic drunk always sitting at the bar that has no life always complaining and looks for a fight. So women that want the "bad boys" is just a phase and once women get mature like in their really late 20's to early 30's they start wanting the nicer guys, start thinking about marriage and family.
To the lady that says she is 41 and still single, savvy and getting all the wrong men. Well quit hanging out at the bars, try online dating. The so called "bad boys" are the young to mid 20 age guys that have not grown up and not into the real world. The "bad boys" that were are now grown and realize that "bad boys" are either just a facade or so dysfunctional that they themselves have a lot of problems. i think your just looking in the wrong place and need to look elsewhere. The so called "bad boys" that are now grown up and in their 30's come to realize that grown up men don't go getting in fights, don't act like punks, don't go grab women's asses blah blah blah we "bad boys" that have grown up and out of that phase have been there done that and are mature. The "bad boys" and yes there are still some that never grow up and always act immature and that comes from either a bad home or they have some serious issues. But the "bad boys" that have grown up and out of the stage are the ones that were acting like that 1. because they are in college and that's how a lot of college guys act and 2nd they are just acting like that because they are out of there parents house and trying new and different things.
But the grown up "bad boys" that were "bad boys" including myself realize once grown up and in their early 30's that women prefer sophisticated men that treat women right but yet they still have a backbone/spine. Women that are older and still like the "bad boys" is immature themselves and have not grown up yet. Let's ask a question here: how many men in their 30's get into fights? How many men in their 30's go around grabbing womens asses? None!! Men that are in their 30's and grown up know and realize that if they act like that they will either be told by other men to grow the hell up, be told they are acting immature and be embarrassed, be laughed at by their coworkers (and coworkers will be like who is that immature boy). You just don't ever see men that are in there 30's and older get into fights etc etc etc and if you do they are the loosers and usually the alcoholic drunk always sitting at the bar that has no life always complaining and looks for a fight. So women that want the "bad boys" is just a phase and once women get mature like in their really late 20's to early 30's they start wanting the nicer guys, start thinking about marriage and family.
Some things to think about:
1) Let's face it, there are a lot of creeps out there. With odds like that it's no wonder women "settle", sometimes against their better judgment.
2) What the heck is a "bad boy" anyway? Sure, there are real creeps out there, but I think women sometimes blame their own psychological garbage on men when things go wrong in the relationship or they are poorly matched. Then they withhold sex or act like beeyotches, thus bringing out a bad side of their man. Then they call him a "bad boy" when he reacts less than "nice" about their behavior. Not fair.
3) Sometimes the girls are "bad girls" and just wanna have fun but they don't want to admit it. They go for the bad boys just for kicks but act like they want a relationship to save face. Sometimes they're just fooling themselves when deep down they're not looking for commitment any more than the bad boy is, but it's so ingrained in women that they will look like bad girls if they own up to those feelings that they will not admit them even to themselves. So they end up looking like the poor victims and the boys are called "bad". Once again, not fair to the boys.
By the way, I am a woman who has never had any particular fascination for so called "bad boys".
To E and the other people who commented,
I would be the one to flirt, but be real about who I am. It is very easy to understand the attraction of the badboy persona that every woman desires whether she will admit it or not. First a few credentials, I have my BA in psychology from the University of Iowa, working towards my MA in professional counseling and have been recently studying social dynamics. I have an NLP certification and independently do Life Coaching.
I really don't need to convince woman about the fact that these types..just...i don't know.."do it" for you and make you surrender to your deepest desires. These bad boy types cover some of the most basic human interactions, mating. If you select a weak, unconfident male who does not display traits which could potentially produce healthy offspring, then in what way will your biology light up from these signs? It will not. Males who are wonderful, intelligent, "nice" guys" (Like how I use to be) are stuck into being conventional, predictable and well...boring! When a strong, confident, good looking (not always necessary) male shows some interest he will not give you his life story, poor out his heart. He will just.."be cool" in that confident almost arrogant way that strikes a trigger in womans biology and signals, intrigue, curiosity and attraction. They affect the mammilian emotional centers of the brain. I will not start rambling more about the technicalities but will say that nice guys fail to realize that they SHOULD NOT have to PROVE ANYTHING to ANYBODY. Confidence is always number one, and the "game" is played by being certain that you know who you are and that other people are only a guest in your reality. Woman look unconsciously first at body language and then by what he does and what he says so confidence, picky men (translation, men are picky and are specific about what they want and will not let others get in their way), social intelligence, a leader, willingness to have real emotions and be authentic, protector of loved ones. If a nice guy can not display these values on a woman she will not feel attraction towards him, and no amount of convincing will work unless she surrenders and gives up the game, but it is never as fun without the chase. I learned this the hard way. These nice guys need to hit there head enough to realize attraction is happening on a deeper level and the problem is, most of these "cool dudes" are hollow and there is not much past there persona so it leaves woman feeling flat, but those with nice guys lack excitement and passion. What to do? Well I would say be counter intuitive if you want a great nice guy, chase him and hopefully he will play along if he picks up on the signals. Guys are dumb when it comes to this so sometimes you need to do more then just a look, wink or some minimul thing you said.
You want something new? Turn it around and be the Alpha, it's weird but I have had attractive woman that have switched roles and found it very exciting. Its annoying to play the game, but like another poster said It's a dance that needs to be played even for a short while. We are not that separated from our ancestors. You become alpha, you chase him and if he is not dumb, he will follow. Tease him if he shows interest, flirt and walk away, then give him too much and he will love it. There are nice guys who play the game and realize that attraction isn't a choice, but give these guys a chance and try to look a little deeper and begin to wonder what that person is really about. Create curiosity about them show dominance and then see if he follows. I am saying things that are obvious but rethink what you are really after. What do you really want and who would I feel the best with in the longer term? If that is the goal. Real men are not a******s, real men, are respectful, playful leaders who are strong and know themselves. These men treat woman right but do not let anyone take them off of their individual Journey and while being sensitive to her needs, he has her work for his attention NOT the other way around. Confidence is the main thing lacking from most nice guys, but he will show that from womans interest towards what he is good at, but woman need to ask, don't be a wallflower.
My two cents, Andy 24
OPULENT,SEDATIVE, AND CONGRADTULATING APPROACHES MAKE MY NOSE INCH A LITTLE, BUT WHEN WE RUN INTO EACH OTHER IT'S ALWAY THE WOMEN DRIVERS THAT'S MAKING MY BAGS INFLAT, AND MY MIND WONDER IF THIS IS AN ACCIDENT BAD ENOUGH TO ASK FOR HER PERSONAL COVERAGE, BOTH TO PAY FOR THE PHYSICAL DAMAGES, AND TO FIND BETTER SERVICES SOMEWHERE ELSE. I HAVE ONE GOOD ADVISE WRITE DOWN HER CONTACT NUMBERS.
I agree with both Barley and Jamie. I don't think that spite is a good idea but realistically how many women who are with good guys are completely faithful to them? Not many. That's why so many guys are "bad" or at least act "bad."
I'm a guy, and my advice for patricia and E and women like them is this: There are good guys out there who are amazing and will satisfy you in every way. Part of the problem is most women don't know how or where to look. And they're looking for the wrong things.
This article shows that most women, whether they realize it or not are attracted to strong, masculine, independent, confident "manly" men. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but you need to be aware of how confident he is. Just because he has a lot of confidence doesn't mean he's going to be a good mate. He may be overconfident, in which case he'll probably be insensitive as well. And remember, the more masculine he is, the more testosterone he has, which offsets oxytocin. So the really masculine guys tend to be self-centered and don't really care about a woman's feelings, because he doesn't experience many of them himself.
Also, you can't rely on the guy for everything. So many women are so insecure and feel that they are not exciting, so they want a guy to take care of them and always provide the excitement for them. This often results in women dating guys who are controlling and while they may be fun and wild and exciting, they usually don't think about consequences or her feelings. This is not healthy for many reasons. A man who doesn't encourage you and listen to you is a loser and is not worth dating, even if you are attracted to him.
Go to counseling or something and work out your own issues, then pursue dating.
Basically, you need to find a nice guy who is emotionally healthy and not angry all the time. Unfortunately, most of the nice guys don't have much confidence because girls have been treating them like crap their entire lives while going after the bad boys. To add insult to injury, the same girls then go to the nice guy to complain about the problems they are having with the bad boy, while still telling the nice guy how amazing the bad boy is.
So find a nice guy and do things with him that you would do with a bad boy. Encourage him to be daring and adventurous. You may find that that's all he needs to come out of his shell and be everything you've always dreamed of. His exciting side will come out and that will provide plenty of attraction and stimulation. This can be an awesome challenge, since so many women love challenge, and it will pay off. Not the kind of challenge of trying to make a self-centered jerk care about you, which almost always backfires and leaves women hurt and messy. He has feelings too, and he's just been beaten down for years by all of the women in his life who treat him like he's not good enough, when he's actually much better than the jerks that most women date. Find a guy in the middle, who has some confidence but is also nice and not arrogant.
And the whole "you want what you can't have" thing usually means that you want a guy who doesn't care about you or doesn't think you're that great. So why waste your time with him. Women are so surprised when they find out that he really doesn't care about them. Well, duh, when he shows it you should take a hint.
Finally, don't go after guys with all the imagery from the media and try to create some fantasy based on movies and magazines. Movies are FICTION. Real life is not like that but still can be very exciting. It just won't be one of the cheesy romance novels which are superficial anyway.
Good points here! I agree that wasting time on bad boys will cause us heartache in the end! However, I disagree with Pat's comments here: "Women will say,
This is all very interesting and sadly, true! argg!! I could go on and on about my own oh so dashing 'bad boy' that has taken me 4 years to just barely get over, but I just wanted to comment on Barley's comment. Your obvious aggression to me indicates that maybe you should look more into why you feel the need to be a bad boy as a reaction, rather than blaming it on the woman. Um, how about 'I've afraid of this happening to me so I'm going to get the better of that bitch and never let it happen by being the 'bad boy'" Sounds like power control to me. Obviously I am over simplifying to make a point... but why not everyone just try being honest with themselves and others? If guys weren't so worried of being screwed over, or intent on being 'unaffected' by women, or trying to 'spite them' as a result, then maybe we'd all have a better chance at harmony. Likewise if women could truly learn to respect themselves and get over all the (believe me I know) deliciously impregnated images and fantasies of what love is, those chances at harmony would greatly improve! easier said than done I know, but you only live once.
There are a large proportion of badboys out there. But also many men feel it is their god given right to treat the less attractive female members of the human race like dirt.
It may be that a badboy can turn into a good guy when he meets the right lady - maybe it's the woman who decides whether the guy will be bad or not.
And basically sometimes all women want is sex anyway, and so the badboy caters to this sensual service.
wow, I can't believe God pops this webpage right up in my XP window . Amazing what ladies and gentlemen out there talking about bad boys :) I am blessed to read every words of you guys. Bad boys are evil and no class . Are we trying to build a wonderful clean world of love and happiness? Then kick them to the curb :) that's how simple it is. Go out there and empower yourself , give yourself a chance involving with good guys . THINK FOR YOURSELF . I learn this word "doormat" from a 20 years-married lady " I let others (evil) walk all over me like a doormat until i am tired of it and started to treat them like doormat instead , then the one who consistently sticked around was my husband ! " . Exactly ! Thanks for sharing something like this website, words of widom , ...You make the world clean , guys :)
with Love , Kelly
I'm a man, and reading a previous poster's comment about how she cheated on her "good" husband makes me thank God every day that I'm "bad." It's women like that who make men want to be bad, because we see that good men are treated so poorly.
"Bad Boy" me too!!.. My first husband was as Good as it gets... no Bad Boy anywhere...good husband, good father, good everything. "too "good".. (boring)became "bad" had an affair...Goodbye--Second husband..Bad as Bad can be...very challenging,exciting, more and more,,this man not afraid of anything, took chances, spontanteous, never a dull moment. I loved every minute being with him. I felt protected/loved/ cared for.. etc. he could fix anything.. and even sell an ice cube to an eskimo. he wasn't affraid of anybody or anything..Very "street-wise" especially knowing someone like him, turned me on. (I was always so protected in my life )and so busy raising kids) I knew nothing of REAL LIFE. He showed me the way... Only problem -his way or no way.... I was totally disallusioned...I really thought it was true love..as long as everything was going his way it was.. if it wasn't he wouldn't talk to me for days till I gave in...he knew I loved him that much and used it against me. till one day, I wasn't enough anymore. Until he found someone younger,. So I left...Goodbye. Now. Everyone I meet I am always comparing..can he do this. or that. does he have backbone, does he know how to fix things, can he take care of business. etc. etc. I want to meet someone who is just like him-minus the "badness".. It was the "puppydog" eyes, that broke me down..."Why is that????
This was interesting to read, short and to the point, but what I found most interesting are the posts by the woman. It's the same thing I tell girls that I know, "he's not going to change, you cry and you cry and you cry, and what happens, he's there to make you smile, oh baby it'll be ok, i wont do it again", and then what happens? BAM, right back to square one.
The bad boy figures out how to give that look of sadness because he knows that's what girls like, are cutsie puppy dog eyes, they know that you want love and romance, fun and excitment. hey that's great, but, what is he doing for you on the inside? How is he bettering your happiness? Is it just for the moment of right now, and then what's going on when he tells you, "I don't want to hear about your problems I had a rough day" what kind of crap is that? My rough day would get better by listening to the how the girl's day went.
I'm a nice guy, somtimes too nice, my timing is terrible because i tend to meet girls who have just gotten out of a bad boy relationship. He pays for this and that, and can communicate well, but, how is he bettering your self-esteem?
What I've noticed that females do to nice guys, is that, when they meet one, and get to know him, they see that he isn't for the moment, he isn't just right now, he's actually taking time to get to know you, and what do the majority of females do? Run in fear, become distant, because you're not stringing them along like marrionettes. They see that, there isn't the fun factor right now because the nice guy has been hurt to, so he's open about his trust issues, but is wiling to work them out. Also, the female sees that, he's willing to get to know you on the inside, yet your inside is so hurt you run away.
What disgusts me about woman and bad boys the most is that, the woman is so I don't fun with him, and seemingly becomes boring with the nice guy. How the female will be all for her man when it's a bad boy, but will still flirt around when shes with a nice guy.
It's as if the game ran on the girl, is the game she runs on the guy.
I wholeheartily agree with Pat. I am 54 years young and married for the last 30 years to a good guy. I am very attracted to bad boys which resulted in two short term affairs that were just for the fun of it. Ultimately I ended both of them because I saw exactly what she reports, the self centeredness, good time guys ect. I was bonding with them and getting to involved and they were only there for the moment. I recommend all readers check out research done on attraction and infatuation. You do well to give that good guy a chance. They are excellent lovers, providers and parents. Definately in there for the long haul.
"Don't waste your eggs!"???
Is this a joke? It sounds like something out of one of Eric Keroack's powerpoint slides.
well, i just left an abusive relationship. a selfish relationship. yes, i contributed with my depression and lack of being able to adjust to small town living after growing up and working in my career in an urban environment. my partner would just yell and tell me to "change or leave" and "what is wrong with you for not liking the mountain life" and "you said you wanted to live in the west and now you don't...you lied to me". i felt horrible and worse about myself day by day. he pulled my hair in anger a few times, and his criticism escalated. i believe it was an abusive relationship, but did not know for sure because my self-esteem plummeted....i became scared around him and finally got the courage to leave....i left a beautiful home that i invested money in, furniture, etc....i just had to leave. i am now sad and heartbroken. he met a woman on the internet within 3 weeks after i left and is now "in love" with her after 8 weeks. he has simply replaced me, moved on...no regret. i sit here trying to move on and get stronger and learning to love myself and figure out what went wrong...anyway,,,i don't think i could ever love again...i am just tired of the whole love scene....i am learning to love myself right now...and be comfortable with myself and then move forward to meet others....i think that it the healthy way...i was just so hurt in this relationship...abuse? yes....you don't know in the beginning...they are always so sweet and loving...then things change.....
'Intermittent reinforcement' - that hurt. This is exactly what he does to me, the bad guy in my life. Throwing tid bits, just enough to make me believe, getting hurt when I blame him for hurting me and foolish I think his looking sad and being sad means he's sad to have hurt me. Then off to flirt and more with others, very often right in my face to test his power of me, then I cry my soul and heart out, then a little call and all starts all over. I've cried for hours every week for months and months on end. I have so much to give to someone sweet, but the ones that approach me invariably seem to be bastards like him. I really wish I could find someone sweet and stop being such a pathologically naive and forgiving woman. But, the worst of all is that I still so wish he'd show himself to be the wonderful guy I thought he was when I fell for him. But what wonderful guy would ever, even once, flirt with another woman in my face, ignoring me, deliberately to make me suffer abjectly..? Good advice would be appreciated.
Long distance relationships dont have much chance if one doesn't bridge the distance. Been in one when I was younger. He found someone closer and disappeared. As for falling for bad boys, count me in. There's something exciting about them. But the excitement is quickly replaced by frustration, and in the long run pain and regrets because bad boys don't make good boyfriends and husbands. They don't change even as they age. They know how to play their game, becoming masters at it when they age. I want to break free from the chain of bad boy relationships. But how?
This was a good article, I hate to admit it, but I think I am in a situation similar to Elizabeth. I am in a long-distanced relationship with a men that use to be a bad boy and we use to have the daily phone calls, the extravagant trips, flowers here and there and now it has slowed down to nothing maybe a phone call once a week. I am in the decision phase were I want to break it off, but since he's not calling me why not just see other people and go on with my life. The game playing seems to never stop and Elizabeth your right they don't change with age.
sometimes we need to be reminded of the obvious. I was involved in a "thing" for a lack of better word. Long distance visits. Daily 2 and 4 hour phone calls. Definitley a bad boy in his previous life. A very bad boy. At 53, mellowed and mature. By all appearances this man was CRAZY about me. Then in a matter of 5 hours completely stopped answering his phone and cut off all communication??? Really thinking back to conversations, and listening well this time, this wasn't the first time he had done this to a woman. Devastated? HURT. That horrible pain I swore I would never risk again. Confusion? Like 41, I decided I would take a chance, not "play" the game, be wide open. BIG MISTAKE. Being honest and open will not land the nice guy or the bad boy. I am wondering if we need the game, the chase, the excitement, it's part of the "love dance". After a lifetime of bad boys I would say yes, unreliable, extreme highs and lows, unpredictable. No they don't change with age.
I am 41 years young and still single, never been married due to the fact that all I have had were the wrong type of men in my life and I am the total opposite of the term "bad". I am an intelligent business saavy young lady who needs help trying to find the right person. I feel as if I should be married by now at the age I am because I feel like an old maid. Since I've had bad men in my life who weren't into me at all, my spirit is quenched when it comes to dating. I am just now getting back into the relationship scene with someone who is a good man. Now I focus more on what I want and I wear my heart out on my sleeve. Any advice you can give me will help. I feel as if I am sixteen all over again trying to find someone who is compatible for me whether it just be a friend.
