Will Living Together Ruin Your Relationship?
Guys debate the pros and cons of moving in together before marriage.
Men from different lovestages debate whether or not to move in with a girlfriend before marriage. Is it a necessary step to learning a partner's quirks? Does it spell disaster for the relationship? Watch five guys discuss the upsides and downsides to sharing a home with your partner before saying "I do." Their answers might surprise you!
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Living together will only hurt your relationship when your relationship is already in the s***s to begin with.
The title of this thread is an unanswerable question.
Each relationship is a unique experience shared by two people.
It's not the living together will affect the relationship,
it's the individual thoughts, expectations & baggage of those involved that will affect the relationship.
Generalizing a question like this only produces a host of subjective responses that's impossible to come to an over-all conclusion. Just take a look at all the reponses to this thread.
I HATE when people say "statistically, moving in will hurt your relationship". I know the studies he's talking about and they're misleading! If you're using cohabiting as a TEST to see if you COULD get married, THEN it will hurt your relationship. If you're using it as a STEP to get married or are planning to get married, then it HELPS your relationship. It's generally not a good idea to move in with anybody "to get to know them better". ^_^ That should have already been accomplished!
If your already living together and want to get married, nothing will change if you already want to stay together forever. If your not sure if you want to spend your life with this person, and get married bc its "time" or "we are already living together" then your marrige will fail.
not all the times living together will ruin ur relationship, if u love the guy unconditionally n he loves u back then there is no chance that the relationship will be ruin. not say u wont have ups n downs but it wont worth breaking up.the best think for a man is coming home to his woman ...one like me lol.
loving unconditionally is different than a commitment. And a commitment needs conditions. There were times in our marriage when if we were living together I would have moved out. Being forced to come back and make up and reevaluate who we are and where we stand in the relationship is something that only a strong commitment makes you do. Now, do you need marriage for that commitment...? I don't think so.
But to be honest, at some point kay, "love" has nothing to do with it. Its not all mushy feelings and great sex. Sometimes its only the commitment keeping you together.
I would never have gotten married if I hadn't lived with my sweetie first. I wanted to be really sure we wouldn't get divorced. We lived together a very long time - but that was what we needed.
Yes, lots of people who live together don't end up married. That's the point. Breaking up with the wrong guy is better than marrying him and going through a divorce.
There's a debate about whether or not people who live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced. One argument is that they aren't more likely at all. They've been together more years than the couples who didn't live together. So you could be comparing how many couples are breaking up after 10 years of living together+marriage with how many couples are breaking up after 8 years of marriage.
I think it basically depends on the people.
But it also gets boring at the same time ha
since you see each other everyday, all day and you run out of things to do.
it's true to some extent... however like everything else, there are always exceptions...
If allot of people think that moving in before marriage will ruin your chance of getting married, then what will happen if you move in after your married?
So like, what they are saying is get married THEN move in together? No the other way around?
the thing is within a few weeks of knowing u the guy already knows if he will or will not marry u. anything longer than that involves a lot of scheming on her part to get him to marry her. my dad popped the question after meeting my mom 4 times and they've been happily married for 25 years now. same with a lot of my friend's parents. all their dads say that when they met their mom "they just knew".
True, after a week of dating my boyfriend said he was going to marry me :) At the time I wasnt sure if it was romantic or creepy! We are soulmates and have been together 8 yrs, married for 6:)
i think i heard the answer so, what there saying is yes, moving in together would ruin there chances of marrige... Well i agree lol. :)
