NEXT POST: Picking up the pieces, slowly.

10 Oral Sex Tips From A Man

By Al Needham posted Jul 8th 2009 9:53AM

Fellatio field guide author offers simple tricks for maximum pleasure.

Oral sex: brilliant, isn't it? It's ridiculously intimate, severely sensual, and you don't necessarily have to take all your clothes off to do it. Whether it's part of foreplay or an act in itself, being a skilled fellatrix ramps up your bedroom (or back seat of car) technique considerably.

But trust me, there's more to fellatio than, as we Brits so tastefully put it, getting your gob round his nob or your gums round his plums. The best oral sex exponents use their mouths, their tongues, their fingers, their eyes, their voice and—most importantly—their brain (but not their teeth, unless it's been asked for). I'm assuming that you already know Rule No.1 about blow jobs—you don't blow—so here are the basic ground rules from a male point of view…

1. If you're not in the mood, don't bother.

Back in the day, fellatio was generally seen as something only depraved men would want, and only even more depraved women would offer. Thankfully, this has changed to the point where a bit of a nosh almost comes as standard. But take it from me; there is nothing more unappealing than a workmanlike blow job from someone who sees it as contractual obligation. Not sexy at all, ladies… Oral Sex: Love It or Hate It?

2. Your mouth can do a million things your vagina can't.

So make use of it. There's far more to fellatio than sucking, and seeing as his genitals are in your mouth, you are the one who is completely dictating the terms. Enthusiastic head-bobbing one minute, followed by slithering your tongue down his shaft, followed by smoochy kisses around the head…it's all good.