How To Kiss Well
A guy who loves kissing explains why making out is special and how to deal with a bad kisser.
I am an aficionado of the kiss. No other act is so simple and so intimate. The light suction, the flick of the lip, the playful nibble, the deep advance and retreat of the tongue—a good kiss is like jazz, an improvisation of melodies, flirtatious staccatos, and passionate brassy crescendos. A good kiss is a rapport enacted physically, like sex, but more erotic.
Many women don't realize this. I've been surprised at how many treat kissing like it really is "first base," just a step towards something better. And when I meet such women, I face a dilemma, like being a music lover who discovers that a new friend has bad taste. Do you break it off, or do you educate? And if you educate, how do you give lessons without giving offense?
My first encounter with such a kisser ended badly. Julie and I were 14, at the conclusion of our second date. She tilted her head, put her open lips to mine, and, using a combination of wetness and suction, established airlock. Then her tongue invaded. I imagined an eel or a water-dwelling snake, or perhaps a tapeworm, darting towards my throat, slithering around, and then withdrawing, only to strike again immediately. I tried to block her with my tongue, but she swirled and pushed me back. I could not breathe. Then I began to gag reflexively. Be an insider. Get the YourTango newsletter. Delivered daily.
Being fourteen has its disadvantages; Julie had not learned the cardinal rule of kissing: it's a conversation. There's nothing inherently wrong with an all-out tongue invasion, but if your interlocutor hasn't asked for it, then you're more scary than sexy. I didn't even call Julie to break up with her, figuring that if a girl had literally made me gag, she would probably get the message. Read: My One Great Love...Wasn't
I soon realized, however, that my modest adolescent social status didn't leave me much room to be choosy. Plus, it turned out that even some awesome girls were terrible at kissing. I would have to teach them.
I took my instructional inspiration from my first girlfriend, Christine—my gold standard when it comes to kissing. Our first kiss had been, to a boy on a first date, a small miracle. I had been terribly nervous as we approached her front door. My hands had begun to sweat. (How could I touch her with sweaty hands?) I became aware of my gangly height. (Could I reach her without bending awkwardly?) I began to doubt that I should kiss her at all.
I actually love to kiss however, my wife is not a big fan of passionate kissing. And I dont mean all sloppy and wet, just sensual, slow kissing. So I basically have just lived with it for 15 years but I believe kissing is the first intimate step to truly connecting with another and it can be very rewarding if the other is into it because, if its good kissing it only leads to the next step in the intense physical connection. Thanks for the article and any thoughts on how I can persuade my wife to kiss more? Peace.
Finally, when you feel nothing is working, no matter how much you tried, and if your partner is really good in every other way, then try to live with it. Or, if the person is not just a bad kisser, but defies constructive criticism in other areas of your relationship, too, then he is less likely to adapt to your other future needs, too. This might not make for a good long-term relationship. It’s really hard to breakup with any one, but it is better to seek someone more suited to your preferences. Such a person would probably make changes and become a better partner in the future.
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So i have only kissed 2 of my boyfriends, one kinda forced the kiss upon me.
But my current boyfriend is amazing. He doesnt over do it. And on our first date i told him that i wasnt planning on kissing him quite yet because i hate lying to my father. But anyways, our first make out sesh his breath smelt absolutly horrible so i ended up pushing my gum into his mouth xD
Guys, please be sure to brush ur teeth, use mouth wash anndd chew gum at least until it is time for your kissing.
I think holding hands is more sensual and revealing than kissing.
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I could not stay silent. This article is great.
I just wanted to say that there are some people who are good kissers and some are bad kissers. I am a late bloomer myself, my first kiss was not long ago, like maybe 3 weeks or so. This boy asked me out and i took a few days to think about it, when i finaly said "Ok, let's try this" he looked at me for a couple of seconds said something like " and for this you took 2 days to think? i really believed you were gonna turn me down" and then almost closed his eyes and leaned in for a kiss. At that point i got scared and kinda retreat a bit,, looked around and then finaly accepted the kiss. Ok, it was horrible, after that i didn't let him kiss me again all night. I tought it was gonna be a small kiss, but he used his tongue from the first 3 seconds and i just didn't know what to do so i just ended the kiss fast without using my tongue. I think he kinda got the message after that... My girlfiends asked me: "So how was it? You can tell if you like him from the first kiss" I just putted a straight face and replyed "Groose". After that he used his toungue way to much and even told me that i kissed weird because I "used my toungue very little and mostly my lips" It's true, maybe i don't know how to kiss but if that's a kiss...i don't really want any of that anymore. Anyway I kinda got used to it now and I'm actualy trying to make him use his tongue less and i'm making progresses.
You may call me a cheater, but i actualy got kissed by another guy a few days ago and that kiss was like heaven.It starded slowly with a close mouth, slow moves and then a little bit of tongue, and ending with a few seconds of just lips...I think it was perfect, it made me feel really good and pretty. he closed his eyes at the right time and then opened them. I blushed after that and my heart was racing. And all beacuse of one kiss, which happend only because he got me off guard. But i really liked it (and i know this is a problem, and you may ask me "What's wrong with you, you have a boyfriend and blah blah" I know, i fell pretty guilty myself without you asking thay, but do i regret it? No. Because it was the best kiss in my life and i think this was it, the heart-racing, haven-like, best kiss for me. And i think i actualy got it, now i have an idea of how to kiss and how an actual kiss must be.) So now i'm trying to teach my boyfriend this. Of course i couldn't tell him what i'm actualy doing.
The important thing is that it is working and he really started to get this, using his tongue a little little less. I'm not saying i know how to kiss, i really don't, but i think i can say that i might have an idea of how it's done, i just need some practise. :) Oh and yeah, I am 16, not that old but now days i actualy fell a bit embarased when people ask me when i had my first kiss.
So yeah you can learn and teach how to kiss. But for most i think it comes natural. I recall asking some of my girlfriend to tell me what am i supposed to do on a kiss, thay just told me: "Just do what he does, it all comes to you".
How to be a good kisser? If done right a good kiss can be mesmerizing, intoxicating and magical. A truly electrifying experience that will leave you breathless, and in a state of exquisite, euphoria.But a good kiss is more than just a kiss. Its an empathetic journey through each others souls. It starts with the man communicating to the woman that he has a genuine and sincere interest in more than just her physical presence.
That he actually cares about what she thinks, and feels. This is accomplished by being a good listener. There is almost nothing a man can say to a woman, besides I Love you, that will touch her heart as much as, looking her in the eyes and being a good sounding board for her dreams, fears, and her desires.
Start by caressing her hand during the conversation, and squeezing it gently, when she becomes particularly emotional about a topic.Don't wait for her to suggest a kiss, if you are being a good listener; when she has fully expressed herself,never interrupt like irenew bracelet review, she will slowdown, and ask you what you think, if you have been paying attention to her; you will see the softening in her eyes,And if you're really paying attention-you will see-that she is tired of talking, and needs to be held. Move in close place your hand so that your thumb is on her cheek, and your four fingers are firmly but gently supporting her neck, slowly, while looking into her eyes bring her face to yours.here is where most guys blow it. Do not start the kiss out, trying to show her how studly you are, by sticking your tongue down her throat and gagging herLightly brush you lips against hers. Withdraw and give her a chance, to say No to the kiss, just in case you've read the moment wrong. But don't prolong the withdrawal, if she gets the impression you think something is wrong with her it's over; If she doesn't look surprised, reassure her by re-engaging;in the kiss.
When you resume the kiss, once your lips touch, you want to parse your lips as if you were sucking on a grape. When she opens her mouth, and exposes her tongue, once again, don't try to give her a tonsillectomy.
Play with the tip of her tongue as if you were licking a stamp or sealing and envelope, keep your lips to an oval about the size of a fifty cent piece, don't try to engulf her head. Never stick your tongue more than half into her mouth. Half way is sexy, any further is desperate.Wet kisses are fine. Sloppy wet kisses are disgusting. Women know more about these things than men, and if you've done your home work, by listening to her, it is [OK] to let her take the lead now.This is also the safest way not to blow a potentially lasting relationship bare lifts reviews , if this is your first kiss, with this woman, She will let you know how far she's willing to go. If she shows signs, of being, out of control and caught up in the physi-cality of the moment-if you really love her-this is the only time you speak.
You are either going to ask her if she's sure she wants to go further, some times another deep look, into her eyes will tell you this, or you are going to suggest that you wait, out of respect for her integrity. A good kissing session can last for hours and hours with out the hint of sexual intentions if you are really into the other person.
Either way a good kiss is more than just a kiss, it can be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.It works the opposite for women. Check him out, slowly, if he tries to over power you with the kiss, get out of there; he doesn't know what the hell he's doing, You'll have slobber in you ears and you'll feel all yucky. And if he doesn't know how to kiss; you can bet he doesn't know the rest of it.
The number one... and I do mean number one thing to kissing well is.... FRESH BREATH!
Your lips could be as soft as any cloud sent from heaven... but if when they part... your mouth smells like hell..... HELLO!
Kissing is the precurser to good sex. I can recall kissing an ex of mine for the first time and while we kissed she was squirming around. I looked at her and with the biggest grin she said to me "OH my god my p***y is getting so wet right now" and she truly looked very shocked and went on to say that no other guy has ever turned her on from just kissing and mind you she was 32 and had been around the block so to speak! She later asked me if it made me feel good inside when we kissed and wanted to know what that meant because it made her feel unlike ever before. Just knowing that my kiss would soak her panties took me over the edge and yes we had the most INCREDIBLE sex either one of us had EVER experienced and I truly miss kissing her more than any other aspect between us. If you want a woman to fall in love with you all that you have to do is make her panties wet without touching her down there!!
1 - The very first thing to consider when attempting to kiss well, is hygiene. There are very few, if any, people that enjoy kissing someone whose breath is unpleasant. To be a good kisser you need to make an inviting target. Bright clean teeth and fresh breath is a must. Appearance matters as well. If your teeth or lips appear dirty or rotten, the person you wish to kiss will not be able to enjoy your kiss, no matter how good your technique. There is also the issue of overall hygiene. Body odor is obviously not going to win you any points and may just keep you from getting that kiss at all. Also, there is the issue of facial hair. For guys, you need to understand how abrasive your face can be if you have not shaved very recently. Be considerate. Be clean. Be groomed. Make yourself as attractive and clean smelling as you possibly can.
2- Always start with a closed mouth. It's not only polite, but it's mature and dignified. This is especially true if kissing someone for the first time. Take it slow, even if you have only a moment or two. A rushed kiss will very seldom be something to remember.
3- Don't physically push too hard or too soft. This might seem obvious, but I can assure you, to some it is not. When kissing, it is very seldom going to enhance things if you press your mouth with too much force against your partner. While some might consider it a means of showing strong desire, it is more often the case that your partner will begin to feel physically uncomfortable, and might begin to fear you're going to loosen their teeth. On the other hand, if you kiss so softly your partner begins to wonder if you are actually there, you're likely going to miss the point of the whole kiss, which is to share something of yourself with this other person.
If you don't know when it's time to go in for that first kiss or if it's too soon, all you really need to do is watch the body language of the person you are with. If it's the first kiss, they'll probably be kind of nervous and fidgety, too, but one of the giveaways is that they will look down at your mouth. If you catch your date studying your lips, you can bet they are probably imagining what it would be like to kiss you and that's a good sign that you should go for it.
Here is more info which i sent to my friend few months back.....
Step 1
Close your eyes at the right moment. When you lean in for the kiss, you want to be looking at your partner until your lips are about to meet. Don't close your eyes too early, and don't leave them open during your kiss.
Step 2
Check your breathing. If you are going to just have a short kiss, then you can hold your breathe, but if you are going to be kissing for a while, then you are going to need to breathe. Don't try to hold your breathe because then you will suddenly be out of air, and have to take deep, awkward breaths. Breathe calmly, the way you normally breathe, and start out breathing through your nose until you open your mouths to kiss. You can then breathe through your nose and your mouth. Just be careful not to breathe heavily on your partner. Keep it natural.
Step 3
Use your hands to augment your kiss. If you want to kiss well, and leave a good impression the first time, then you need to use your hands and touch the other person during your kiss. Start by embracing them around their head or torso, but do not violate their personal space by touching them in other places without being invited to do so.
Step 4
To kiss well the first time, you need to kiss for the right amount of time. Be sensitive to your partner's body language. If the person you are kissing starts to move away or close their mouth, your kiss may be over. If in doubt, leave your partner wanting more. If they initiate the next kiss, you will know your first kiss went well.
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i had a bad kissing bf who would suck on my bottom lip so hard (bc he thought it was sexy?), the next day I had a bruise on my lower lip! it was purple… my mom asked me if I had bumped myself, and I had to keep biting my lip to keep them pink.
i re-taught him tho. so whoever got my sloppy 2nds – you’re welcome.
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I knew my fiance was going to be the last man I ever kissed when we kissed for the first time. The connection was MAGICAL and is still the best part of our relationship. Like I told him then ...... "When you kiss a girl, she STAYS kissed".
My advice for others, follow up the first kiss with a text, email or written on a card attached to a bouquet of flowers - by commenting on how great the kiss was. My guy's text " Your lips left me speechless" sealed the deal!
On that note, ahem, I'm in the mood for a little smootching now ... Gotta go =)
Good luck all. Everybody deserves at least one heart melting, knee weakening, passioantely memorable kiss in their life.
1 - The very first thing to consider when attempting to kiss well, is hygiene. There are very few, if any, people that enjoy kissing someone whose breath is unpleasant. To be a good kisser you need to make an inviting target. Bright clean teeth and fresh breath is a must. Appearance matters as well. If your teeth or lips appear dirty or rotten, the person you wish to kiss will not be able to enjoy your kiss, no matter how good your technique. There is also the issue of overall hygiene. Body odor is obviously not going to win you any points and may just keep you from getting that kiss at all. Also, there is the issue of facial hair. For guys, you need to understand how abrasive your face can be if you have not shaved very recently. Be considerate. Be clean. Be groomed. Make yourself as attractive and clean smelling as you possibly can.
2- Always start with a closed mouth. It's not only polite, but it's mature and dignified. This is especially true if kissing someone for the first time. Take it slow, even if you have only a moment or two. A rushed kiss will very seldom be something to remember.
3- Don't physically push too hard or too soft. This might seem obvious, but I can assure you, to some it is not. When kissing, it is very seldom going to enhance things if you press your mouth with too much force against your partner. While some might consider it a means of showing strong desire, it is more often the case that your partner will begin to feel physically uncomfortable, and might begin to fear you're going to loosen their teeth. On the other hand, if you kiss so softly your partner begins to wonder if you are actually there, you're likely going to miss the point of the whole kiss, which is to share something of yourself with this other person.
Right now, I'm in a long term relationship with this guy who either a) isnt that into kissing b) a bad kisser or c) im such a horrible kisser that he's just given up on me. Like, when we first started going out, he tried to french me. But i compeletly spazzed out and stopped kissing him every time he tried. He doesnt use his tongue anymore. Our kisses are either soft and quick or just a peck on the lips, which is nice. But I'm pretty bored with it.
I want to learn how to kiss passionately soo badly. But now I have no opportunity to. Any suggestions?
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Why are people so obsessed with kissing? Personally, I don't find any pleasure in kissing. Gary from Wii softmod
In High School, I went out with my best friend's Girlfriend's best friend, as a Favor. The Date was, to be nice, a real waste of an evening. She was not good at conversing, she had nothing interesting going on and didn't even comment on other folks stuff... not once. When I brought Her home and was saying good night, She put her arms around My neck and reached in to Kiss Me, which was fine except that She was the Single Worst Kisser I have ever had kiss me... and that is saying a lot because that was 37 years ago. She pushed Her lips against mine and it felt like a Wet Fish. The Result of this horrible Kiss Date was that My friend's Girl was pissed at Me.???
I learned to French Kiss with real passion at the age of 8. Doubt it if you want but, it's true. Kissing is much more Passionate and Intimate than Sex on any Day. Don't get me wrong... Sex is Great but You are NOT getting to that point if you cannot inspire your Partner with your Kissing. geo tv live
Start with a short, closed-mouth kiss. If she responds well, do another short kiss. Continue this, and as long as she's still into it feel free to start making your kisses longer. An important part of kissing is to always move slowly. Fast moves get you rejected; slow moves turn your girl on and open the door for more.
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The best advice that can be given is to be sincere attentive and let each kiss count. When your partner kisses you let that moment be the exclusive one with the most romantic feeling ever.
Thanks for posting this article. Kids and teens in this day-in-age just jump right to bed. They don't think of the consequences for their actions. If out of control teens took love just a little slower we would all be better off.
Women... AND Men, Equally, are either Good at Kissing or NOT. The Truth is that most folks that Kiss Badly, have and will always, Kiss Badly. Some may be able to be taught but most cannot.
In High School, I went out with my best friend's Girlfriend's best friend, as a Favor. The Date was, to be nice, a real waste of an evening. She was not good at conversing, she had nothing interesting going on and didn't even comment on other folks stuff... not once. When I brought Her home and was saying good night, She put her arms around My neck and reached in to Kiss Me, which was fine except that She was the Single Worst Kisser I have ever had kiss me... and that is saying a lot because that was 37 years ago. She pushed Her lips against mine and it felt like a Wet Fish. The Result of this horrible Kiss Date was that My friend's Girl was pissed at Me.???
I learned to French Kiss with real passion at the age of 8. Doubt it if you want but, it's true. Kissing is much more Passionate and Intimate than Sex on any Day. Don't get me wrong... Sex is Great but You are NOT getting to that point if you cannot inspire your Partner with your Kissing.
TO: sassy_s: I have been attacked by a Tongue Bandit more than once. The Last One was a tall (5'10") Lovely Woman and I thought I was going to Suffocate because it felt like a Sucker Fish on my face. You Lose any chance of a Passionate Kiss when that happens. I even tried to get her (politely) to change how she came at kissing.
Kissing should feel very natural and easy. Kisses should never be forced or pressured. Kissing is the greatest thing about the saying "Vive la Difference!". Kissing IS the Best Thing to come along Before or Since Sliced Bread.
Kissing, NOT SEX, was what got Adam Hooked on Eve before the Love Making. Kissing was just the First Luscious & Juicy Bite of the Apple, Baby.!!!
I have personally had a number of relationships because after Kissing a Woman and having Her tell me "I Love the way You Kiss.", they actually asked me if I was seeing anyone and would I like to be seeing them? I usually said Yes. I am not bragging. I just think that people that really Love Kissing, tend to be a lot better Kissers than other folks... and I LOVE Kissing... a LOT.!!!
The Truth is, there are a Lot of Great Kissers in this World and I think only a small percentage of the population are actually Very Bad at Kissing. Out of 75 Lovers and many more Dates and Liasons, I can Honestly say that I have only known 3 or 4 Very Bad Kissers. Based on My Personal numbers, that would make it just about 5% or less of the Population are Bad at Kissing, Meaning 95% are Good or Better or Great Kissers... HOORAY...!!! Kissing Wins.!!!
If you want to kiss well, remember this: A KISS is complete in all its entirety. It is not a prelude to anything or a bridge for more things to come. When you kiss, just enjoy the moment, enjoy the softness of your partner's lips, the closeness of each other, and the touch of your hands on your partner's body (guys, hold your woman while kissing her). Take short breaks from kissing, let each other breathe and think of kiss as a symphony (or an airplane about to take off), it starts slow and gains momentum..... Be playful and enjoy the kiss.
And if you expect to be kissed, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE have good breath and good oral hygiene.
So here's the deal. I'm a late bloomer (first kiss at 17). Let me just say it was a horrible first kiss. Totally my fault too - I was definately a tongue down the throat kind of girl. I think I was kinda scarred from that because now I have an issue with tongues in my mouth. I'm reading this article and he's talking about all of these different things you can do with your mouth and I have no clue what he's talking about. And as a 20 yr old, that SUCKS. I've gotten over most of my inhabitions, but i think it's too late.
Right now, I'm in a long term relationship with this guy who either a) isnt that into kissing b) a bad kisser or c) im such a horrible kisser that he's just given up on me. Like, when we first started going out, he tried to french me. But i compeletly spazzed out and stopped kissing him every time he tried. He doesnt use his tongue anymore. Our kisses are either soft and quick or just a peck on the lips, which is nice. But I'm pretty bored with it.
I want to learn how to kiss passionately soo badly. But now I have no opportunity to. Any suggestions??
I think my husband is the only person who I ever trusted to show me on how to do different techniques of kissing. He was my first boyfriend and we've been together for 15 years. I must be doing something right to keep him captivated. He says I am the only who was able to keep up with him. I was terrified to kiss him the first time. I just remember that it was an exciting feeling and my heart melted. He just makes feel so warm inside. We try to keep the romance going after 14 years of marriage and four kids (girls). He is an awsome man. Old fashion romance is beautiful.
I agree, a terrible kissing experience can be traumatic. A great kissing experience can be total bliss, heaven, the best! As a married gal, I find sometimes it's easy to fall into a routine, predictable sort of kissing. I have to remind myself to pay attention and be creative! I got very inspired looking at all the fun goodies on www.marriagetoychest.com
I love this article! I haven't actually kissed anyone passionetly.. only three guys during a game of spin the bottle. And they werent really kisses, just a little peck on the lips. And about a week after, all three guys said my lips were really wet. I was self-concious because i have dry lips, and i didnt have chap stick with me,so i licked my lips before i kissed them. And now, whenever someone says something about kissing me.. they all say no. Then go on and kiss (peck on the lips) someone else. So, i was really worried about my first REAL kiss (whenever i have it) But this article shows me that there really isnt such thing as a BAD KISSER. Just kissing badly. But, it can be fixed. Thanks!!
Please Pay Attention. You sound like a Teenager to Me.
Most Teenagers are Not Comfortable Kissing because they are too nervous or afraid or they think that they are the ONLY ONES that have Wet Lips or Dry Lips or Thin Lips or Fat Lips or whatever? Do Not get hung up on this, really. Just be yourself and you will have a Great Kiss when the time is right for that Great KIss to happen.
P.S.: Have You seen all the Glamour Ads showing Models and Stars wearing Wet Look Lipstick? Wet Lips are better for Kissing... and a lot more... so, You are way ahead of the other Girls.
Note Here: Just Kissing for now Ms. Teen Queen... No Getting into Trouble, okay? Good.
Here is a little Tip. Don't Dive into the Kiss and Don't snap into a little Peck on the Lips if you want a Real Kiss. A Real Kiss starts with a slow move forward and a very gentle touching of the lips, which you can slightly lift from and then go right back to... many times if you want. (this is very sensual & nice.) Move your lips gently as if you were dancing with them. Enjoy the Dance and don't try to Force anything and it will all fall into place... Trust Me... I know kissing.
P.S.: The Boy will also really appreciate this approach too because He doesn't know any more than you do and is just as nervous and scared and unsure of what he is doing. Good Luck.
this is amazing. i've never kissed anyone, cuz i am only (well to tell ya, i'm young.) but anyway, i am going out with this guy, i'm going to kiss him after school and i'm afraid he is gonna try to do me french. that is gonna be hard for me. i'm gonna look up how to french kiss just in case. but thanks for this article!
This article is ridiculous. There is no context to any of it. All of these statements are perfectly reasonable things to say under the right circumstances. This author is no expert. farmville cheats
Well i can say that i also can relate, more than once actually, i was seeing this guy for a little over a month and every time he kissed me he tried stickin his tounge down my throat and i would pulled away! I couldn't stand it after that i left him because there jus wasen't anything there! The second way that i can relate is my boyfriend now of a year and i dont wanna tell him that he's a bad kisser, but also so we don't really kiss pasionatly either and i would love to b/c I AM ALL FOR KISSING ESPECIALLY IF THEY KNOW HOW TO KISS! LOL
Kissing is the most passionate thing in my relationship with my boyfriend. Him and I end up with our lips locked at anytime we can and even wke up kissing each other in the middleof the night. Kissing is an art....An art of LOVE! I love it and I would never consider myself a teacher or a student. Its when you find that one that you click with. Like the man I am with now. Our first kiss was amazing and since then they have gotten even better because of our love growing towards each other.
I've been told many times I'm a GREAT! kisser. I guess I have been a teacher this whole time and never knew it. I have a kissing rhythm, you can either match it or you learn it after a few times. I had this one guy who was a horrible kisser (and psycho), it took him a couple of tries, but he finally found my rhythm and kissed WAY better. He still tried to launch himself into my mouth every once and awhile, but it wasn't so bad.
very interesting article.. kissing for me is the best expression of passion that you feel with the person. I love kissing too, I can handle for hours.. LOL
it is the best activity than actual sex. You can stop and finish sex but in kissing its like that you dont like to stop it..
This is an interesting article! Thanks for sharing.
Indeed, kissing is more intimate than having sex because it will determine in some ways if that person has great passion, love or just simply feel lusty for you.
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I agree,kissing is great when done right! I have missed out on it for years,as my x,of 18 years of marriage was not a very good kisser and had the most terrible bad breath you would not believe! So I learned early to turn the kiss away,but boy did I miss kissing.Now I have a man in my life that I can just loose myself in his kisses!!And I think it makes the sex all the better,plus you dont feel like a hooker!!!LOL
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I think kissing is by far the most intimate experience ever. i could kiss for hours with the right person. Its both like a symphony of beautiful music, that takes you to another place and opens you up from the inside, and like a slow dance that takes your breath away when you are in synchronicity. Nothing like a kissing!
My husband and I could always kiss for hours. He was a great kisser. But then 25 years ago he deployed for a year, hooked up with some girl who kissed entirely differently. Yeah, I could tell. He never recovered his skills from before. We haven't kissed passionately since. I can't stand the open-mouth suck face thick tongue down my throat. Gross.
I can't stand that either. It's like get your damn tongue out of my throat. My husband wants me to do more of it. Is there middle ground????
i relete coz to my side i feel gud if he kisses me and i bare it my mind that he loves me.
it also build our stay together. in short it shows that we realy love one another.
I have had so many bad kissers. I agree For me it starts there, continues and ends there. There is an art to kissing. And done right will bring me to my knees. The energy from the kiss sets the rest of the way for me. LONG LIVE A GREAT KISSER!
i think it was agreat article cuz to me kissing is everything when i see ma friend the first thing we do is kiss and its just as amazing as everything else lol
As they say practice makes the man perfect especially if you are at a very young age. Kissing is an art and everyone may not be the master. At the same time you can always be one. If you are not really satisfied with the way your partner kisses, take the controls in your hand. Be the guider and make him/her learn.
I remember a couple years ago I started to make out with a girl I really liked I initiated it she was surprised at first so she did not do much couple seconds later she got into it and she shoved her tongue in my mouth with out moving her lips and it seriously felt like i was making out with a snake I stopped right there but didn't really pull away but she got the message that it was kinda creepy and I started kissing her again and she stopped using her tongue like that for the rest of the time we dated.
Im 19 and been single until now. I have never practice kissing neither kissed a boy until finally having a bf and my first kiss which was horrible as i thought about it after even my bf was honest about it. But he told me that ill get better later on and that practice makes perfect. So being with him for two months now, i have gotten a little bit better but not fully there yet with tongue and all,hehe. He says im getting better but i say i guess still not satisfied, the best part of this relationship is that he is such a good kisser...actually more like a hot kisser bc i just get turned on everytime he starts kissing me while using his tongue, LOL. So this is a very good article to read and the tips from this article is great for me.
Ahhh!!! Love the topic. I’ve always been told I’m a great kisser but I couldn't exactly tell you why. Even in high school I seemed to end kissing other guys women. Maybe the blue bedroom eyes and fuller lips (I couldn't see it,lol) but it's in the beholder I suppose. Of course if you like something chances are you'll be good at it because ,so to speak, you put all your passion, heart and soul into it and there's unseen but felt sexual energy in that kiss. So what do you expect with a screen name like mine? LOL. I do like all the versions of a kiss related here but what excites, arouses me the most and contrary to some comments and the originator of this topic, is when a woman does attack?? me with her tongue, thrusting as it were. That’s the closest I’ll ever get to having the feeling of penetration and woman on the sexual offensive. That hopefully relates to how she feels during intercourse from a man. The one kiss I’ll always remember is a woman who seemed to like my tongue but did not give me her's , then all of a sudden something happened to her and I found myself with the longest and thinnest tongue, yes like a snake , darting almost to my throat and taking my breath away. Like the oldies song kept repeating "it's in his (or her) kiss".........
Great article; totally agree with the author. Since I was a young teenager, I've enjoyed kissing. As an almost 50 year old woman, I can say this....bad kissing is a deal breaker. A few co-workers were discussing this point....she said, "My husband and I kiss alittle, but it's just a precursor to sex". My response, "If the kissing isn't great, there won't BE any sex." And I stand by this...to me, kissing is like making love with the mouth. There's so much you can do to mimic the same movements and sensations that you might get during sex....like sucking on his tongue, as if you were giving him a blow job. The guy I'm with now is 13 years my junior and THE best kisser I've ever experienced...it's no wonder the sex is mind blowing too!
I had a experience with someone who only wanted to stick their tongue in your mouth but taught him thats not only thing you do when you go to kiss someone. I told him without telling him if you know what I mean. So no you dont have to suffer and no you dont have to make someone feel sub-concious about you can simply do what I did guide them!
I think it's terrible that some girls won't tell guys they're bad kissers. If you care about the guy, you'll want to help him by letting him know! After all, isn't that what relationships are about?
- Lauren
How To French Kiss
and who's the judge of that? As everything in this world, kissing quality is relative. Gary from Wii softmod
I dated a guy who kissed with such passion that it aways got me hot but that was all he had he was a terrible boyfriend and not into me at all to him it was just kissing to me the earth opened it some times can be misleading .on the other hand I dared another for ten years he was very romantic did everything for me and my family but the kiss was like murder by tongue HARRIBLE some people have it and some don't
This is the sexiest, coolest article I've read in a long time. I agree completely about the importance of kissing. My most memorable boyfriend was an incredible kisser, we kissed for hours quite happily. Wow, what good memories!
I dated a guy for 2 years, off and on, who didn't know how to kiss. He went for the "let me stick my tongue down your throat, as far as I can" approach. I did exactly as stated in the article: went for slow kisses, withdrew, started to tease, and he would reciprocate, eventually. But then it would always head to the "AHGGGRRAAAGGAGAAAGGGG" tongue gagging action. Sometimes I just didn't feel like kissing him because I knew where it would always go.
I never had the heart to tell him he wasn't a great kisser. It just didn't seem as important at the time as appreciating him as a good person.
well ,my boyfriend is a good kisser and i am too and showing our affection develop into somehting serios in bed..thats cool about kissing turns into getting hot .....
I was my boyfriend of 3 years first kiss lol. He was horrible the first time but I taught him the right way. Now he makes no mistakes...whether its being romantic or just sexual his kisses make me melt. Sometimes I feel like he taught me!!! Kissing rox my sox lol!!! Eyes closed are a plus...
kissing with passion and also with a good person makes one feels great.
Being the older 1 of the two, Justin didnt really know HOW to kiss, besides like a goldfish being frowned lol.
Now 6 months into the relationship, hes getting much better.
Practice makes perfect afterall.
no doubt about it kissing is so much fun! but there is an art to kissing. i think most of it has to do with who you are kissing. whenever you kiss someone new for the first time, you never know what to expect, but once the two of you have gotten into a rhythm every time the two of you kiss it will be perfect! and kissing is totally a necessity in a relationship. if a guy wants to be serious with me but still refuses to kiss me ... not cool. chances are he probably isn't into that relationship and i'm not either.
Sometimes the kiss is that good that you cant help but close your eyes or sometimes you dont even notice that your eyes even closed to me that means the kiss was spectacular!!
I concur wholeheartedly. My very recent ex was not a kisser. And because she felt that she was not a good kisser, she did not care to indulge any activities that she wasn't convinced she was "good" at. While I knew how much I thoroughly enjoy the nuances and expressions of kissing, I didn't realize how much a necessity is it for me until I was in a relationship where it wasn't reciprocated or appreciated. Of course her aversion to kissing was merely a symptom of much deeper issues with commitment and emotional vulnerability. And I truly believe that that's where the art of kissing stems - the ability (and desire) to express oneself in that unique, passionate setting that can be as innocent as it is erotic
I actually love to kiss however, my wife is not a big fan of passionate kissing. And I dont mean all sloppy and wet, just sensual, slow kissing. So I basically have just lived with it for 15 years but I believe kissing is the first intimate step to truly connecting with another and it can be very rewarding if the other is into it because, if its good kissing it only leads to the next step in the intense physical connection. Thanks for the article and any thoughts on how I can persuade my wife to kiss more? Peace.
Well Ben I can actually say, "You are right on the money about KISSING". I love to kiss, it is something about the feel the passion that you can give someone without taking off your clothes. Just as you have, I have also came across the tongue bandit. You just want to stop them and say," HEY! are you trying to kill me with that thing". My current "friend" doesn't really like to kiss . I think he has had a few bad situations with kissing. He does like the light kiss of my lips against his. But, I've been working on him. He is starting to relax a little more. I just want to say..THANKS for letting some people know there is an art to kissing. To all you non-kissers please read this article and take some pointers (2nd page starting with paragraph 1).
