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The Etiquette of Oral Sex

The ups, downs and in-betweens of oral sex.

There may be no intimate act portrayed more unfavorably in the media than oral sex. Every time it's in the news, people who shouldn't be doing it are doing it somewhere they shouldn't be doing it.

Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky ruined cheap dresses and expensive cigars in the Oval Office. Chloe Sevigny serviced the ever-grimy Vincent Gallo— with no camera tricks—at the end of the atrocious 2003 film The Brown Bunny.

And, as a report released late last year by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) revealed, half the teenagers in America are having oral sex, quite possibly in the rec room.

But even years of bad publicity can't explain why this particular act is often a source of dissatisfaction and anxiety for couples. Oral sex is arguably even more intimate than intercourse.

It can be intensely pleasurable for men and—because of direct clitoral stimulation that's all but impossible during intercourse—especially women.

Problems arise, however, because oral sex can tap into a wide range of insecurities, fears, and neuroses. Pleasuring someone is usually a solo performance, which can be nerve-racking.

Can you relate?

Discussion

nubiancoco Single
Posted July 21, 2009

TRY ORAL SEX WITH A LITTLE ICECREAM. YUM YUM!

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caroline Married
Posted August 8, 2009

yes, very yummy! and chocolate...but can be very messy! my hubby says i'm the best c**k sucker ! and i love to do it. he even says he wishes he could show me off to his friends and i would win any dick sucking contest. he is pretty good too but some times a little rough when he has a hairy beard!

Score: -1
elphie Single oh my bleeding heart.
Can Relate - Posted June 17, 2009

oral sex is fantastic, especially between two women.

Score: 2
Watersisland Starting Over
Posted March 15, 2009

Ah,yes. I love to eat my honey. I don't know if it's the aroma or the visual stimulation, or maybe the hormones/pheromones but it makes me absolutely ravenous. It also make lovemaking last a lot longer than just intercourse. I also don't have to hear her begging 'MORE' if I please her that way FIRST. Etiquette? Both must be clean first--but not too squeaky clean. As Napolean use to write to Josephine after battle--"I''m coming home;don't bathe tonight".

Score: 1
mmman54495 Married
Posted February 16, 2009

All I have to say is if I could live on just eating a woman I would never have to buy food. Performing oral sex on your lover is the most sincere why of being unselfish and submissive to your partner and showing your unconditional love for them.

Score: 3
silvergirl Starting Over
Posted January 19, 2009

I have had and been giving oral for as long as I can remember! Ilove the taste and warmth in my mouth and when I get it OMG! love to be gone down on!

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tink Single
Posted January 12, 2009

but if your GREAT at what u do then it shldnt phase u

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Road Man Jack Single
Posted December 30, 2008

Every gal I have been with did swallow with the exception of 2. One Ex and One current. They always make sure I finish, which is nice. But there is something extra you get from the constant suck. I usually scream and moan very loudly. My current friend lets me munch carpet and it tastes so good I'd like to bottle it as a sports drink, for me. Sorry gals, it's like the salad bar...some sweet and some salty.

Score: 3
Posted December 27, 2008

i just recently started having oral with my baby and before him i never did with a man. i have experimented with women before and i thought it would be similar in taste but it isnt women are more sweet than men does anyone have any advise on how to make your guy sweeter so you dont get sick

Score: 2
tink Single
Posted January 12, 2009

girl all you gotta do is make him dink juices n water just like you are what you eat the same as you are what u drink

Score: -1
MilknHunnie Taken
Posted December 24, 2008

Seriously I basically orally pleasure my mate at least once a day.
I know he loves that. It's such a good feeling to see the reactions the looks you get the beauty of sex.
I love it...I am a very sexual person and pleasing my current lover is my top priority. To many vultures out there
willing to do what u are not to take what you have... Keep em happy at home!!!!

Score: 1
MilknHunnie Taken
Posted December 24, 2008

I am just what the name says MIlk n Hunnie .. You need me to be complete and I soothe as I go down..

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sonny21 Complicated
Posted December 24, 2008

WELL NEXT TIME I DO IT I WILL BE READY

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luvstrimpussy Starting Over
Posted December 23, 2008

I love it & it is a deal breaker if she is not into it! BOTH WAYS! My motto is, "Show me a man that won't eat his woman & I'll show you a woman I can STEAL!

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sassy_s Single
Posted December 26, 2008

My thoughts extacly...I had a male friend that lost his girl like that. He kept complaining about how she just wanted him to do "that". I told him then, If you won't do it somebody will. The person he caught her doing "that" with blew his mind.

Score: 1
Drea2up Single Rubenesque Widow
Posted December 23, 2008

Kittyz is right, this is an art and practice makes perfect girls!
XOxo~Drea

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MilknHunnie Taken
Posted December 24, 2008

yes that is true true true practice makes perfect.....

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Kittyz Taken
Posted December 23, 2008
smart talk comment

This is an art. You have to want to do it and girls do read up. Its about being uninhibited. Letting your self go if you are out to please your man, girls education is the key here. Ya know the ole saying"Practice makes perfect." Well this is an art i seek perfection in cuz when I finish my man is speechless and the way it should be. Yes cleaniness is important. Anyone wanting to experience should take that into consideration for their partner. commmon sense dont ya think. Tweety its not about you do me i will do you. I am sure if your good at it, You will never have to ask or think about your turn...:)

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tweety Taken
Posted December 12, 2008

Fyne@sWine The # 1 key to having good oral sex is that if you do him make sure he do you.

Score: 0
Posted April 27, 2008

A word to the wise, make sure your partner disposes of his/her chewing gum. It does leave a mess.

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MilknHunnie Taken
Posted December 24, 2008

try peppermint the cool sensation whew!!!!

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Posted April 15, 2008

there is nothing better for an all male, than a woman giving her pleasures in the form of succumbing to swallowing the c*m from someone they love or just wants to please, and please enormously.... this will usually win the heart.Try it , is a simple thing for someone in the mood and wants to please. yes!!!

Score: 1
Posted April 11, 2008

Giving your man oral sex is the best thing you can do for him. There isnt anything wrong with it, it isnt dirty and you would be putting a smile on his face as well as your own. It brings you closer.

(and that photo of the guy with the melon, not racist. Who doesnt like a cold slice of melon when theres a *hot* subject such as oral sex?)
;)

Score: 1
Posted April 9, 2008

I give oral sex, a lot. I don't receive it - I'm not interested. The women I'm with love it and expect it. That's fine. But ladies, if you want oral sex, a word to the wise - please, SHAVE.

Thank you

Score: 0
Posted April 12, 2008

I give oral stimulation to my man almost everyday. Why? Well I enjoy it, though sometimes it does get tiresome. He claims that he enjoys pleasing me more than he enjoys getting head...but I don't see how that falls in to place when I've given him head for almost hours at a time. Its a great way to spice things up, especially if you have a few tricks up your sleeve.

Score: 1
Posted March 20, 2008

no camera tricks were needed in The Brown Bunny. The penis was a prosthetic.

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Posted March 11, 2008

Soryy Michele, you must be a wimpy guy; worse than a bitchy gal.

Score: -1
Posted March 7, 2008

Why is there a picture of a black man eating a slice of watermelon on your site? This is a racial stereotype, and I find it highly offensive.

Score: -1
Posted February 23, 2008

Oral sex is, whether one at first realizes it or not, homosexual by its very nature. I call it "wayward sex" and have written the viewpoint I think God has towards it. Read my webpage at http://www.berkeleyversion.com/homosexuality.htm

Score: -1
Posted January 16, 2008

i dont' get this whole neuroses bit. what's the big deal.

newbies, i have one word for you: shower. if every thing is clean and smelling fresh, what's not to love.

Score: 0
Posted January 16, 2008

I've heard of people not liking oral. What's not to like? But I've never actually dated a chick that's not into it. Giving or receiving. To each his own or whatever.

Score: 0
Posted January 17, 2008

Any man that says he doesnt like oral sex should let my lady give him some!! she is mind boggling fantastic at it!

Score: 0
Posted January 18, 2008

Ediot, where do I sign up?

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