RH Reality Check (the website for "information and analysis for reproductive health") recently received the following letter from a reader named Jessica:

My boyfriend does not satisfy me sexually. He only lasts about ten minutes, he won't rub my clit because he doesn't want bodily fluids on his hand and he won't eat me out because he thinks it's nasty, but he thinks that I should give him head. We have been together two years and now it is really affecting me. What can I do?

The RH Reality Check advisor, Heather Corinna, tries her best to support Jessica by saying … Read More

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"What do men like about oral sex? I'm willing to put in the work when it comes to giving a blow job but it would be so helpful if someone could tell me what exactly men like." -Kataroo

We know men love sex, and especially oral sex. But what's so great about third base? Men and women from the YourTango community weigh in with advice, tips and insights.

To read what others had to say or to give your own advice, go here: What Do Men Like About Oral Sex?

Being an oral goddess may not be your top priority, but it's a pretty handy (or, er, mouthy) skill to have. After all, who doesn't want to be the kind of gal whose mere memory can bring a wistful smile to any ex's face? And if that doesn't convince you to upgrade your oral game, consider the benefits of potential reciprocity.

Check out these expert tips from research sexologist, sex journalist, Lemondrop contributor and The Sex Bible author Susan Crain Bakos. Going dowwwwwwwwwwn ...

Putting On the Condom
If this isn't your long-term guy, he should be wearing a condom. And while he … Read More

You know that old chestnut about men being pretty simple? It turns out that it's not so true. They (men) like to eat, poop, sex, sleep and watch sporting events (in an ideal world, all at the same time). But not all men like all of those thing (or any for that matter). Go figs, right?

Scouring the interwebs the last day or so, I've discovered that men can't be totally pigeon-holed into anything regarding preferences or even gender roles. It's a brave, new, scary world out there.

Here are six myths about men that the web has recently dispelled:

Men don't … Read More

Oral sex: brilliant, isn't it? It's ridiculously intimate, severely sensual, and you don't necessarily have to take all your clothes off to do it. Whether it's part of foreplay or an act in itself, being a skilled fellatrix ramps up your bedroom (or back seat of car) technique considerably. 
 
But trust me, there's more to fellatio than, as we Brits so tastefully put it, getting your gob round his nob or your gums round his plums. The best oral sex exponents use their mouths, their tongues, their fingers, their eyes, their voice and—most importantly—their brain (but not their … Read More

Let me be delicate about this, if I can.

As far as I can tell, not only should you be having lots of oral sex with the father of your baby—even up to a year before conceiving—you should also make sure to ingest his seminal fluid. Listen to what I'm telling you: the international medical community is giving you an Rx for oral. Sure, they say frequent intercourse is good, too, but oral is better. So, if you care about having a healthy baby and not potentially unleashing what scientists call a "destructive attack on the foreign tissues" of your … Read More

Susan Crain Bakos is a research sexologist, sex journalist and author. Here, she tells us how to have an orgasm while giving a guy oral sex—a tip from her book "The New Tantra."

If you're in a relationship, you probably have quid pro quo sex: You arouse him with some oral sex, he returns so you can orgasm, you shift to intercourse for his peak and finish with The Cuddle for your benefit.

Give your sex life a jolt with fellatio that will rock both of your worlds (really!). It's time modern women got down on our knees for something … Read More

It was only natural since it's National Masturbation Month that we'd celebrate by browsing the Internet looking for a little upgrade. It's been a while, but we were sort of curious to see what the kids are rubbing themselves with these days.

Not too much has changed. There's plenty run-of-the-mill pocket rockets and generic dildos to be had, but if you dig a bit below the surface you'll find some curious gadgets that err on the side of painful, campy, awkward or a kooky mixture of the three.

Now, we're big girls here. A sex toy can hardly scare us. … Read More

We love supermarket tabloids as much as the next person. In fact, we're guilty of holding up the line at Gristedes on several occasions, all in the name of celebrity gossip.

When it comes to sex myths, however, the headlines aren't always as transparent as say, a Spencer Pratt mishap. MSNBC recently published a list of sexual misconceptions that, quite frankly, scare us more than a Heidi Montag music video. 

When The American Journal of Forensic Medicine and Pathology reported that a benign embroid tumor containing teeth was growing in the wall of … Read More

Going through high school and college there were various whispers among women in the know about improving your oral sex technique. There are several reasons you may want to give a better blow job—and it's not because you're looking 101 ways to please your man.

Oral sex is extremely intimate. It's even been considered taboo at some points in history. And since some women don’t give blow jobs all that often, it's only natural that you'd be nervous, or want guidance. If you don't feel confident when engaged in such a personal activity you're less likely to enjoy it. … Read More