If you think that being irresistible to men is acting like "Perfect Patty" (laughing all the time, hiding all your negative feelings, having a perfect body, cooking perfect meals and being "Suzy Homemaker" in your free time), you are asking your man to fall in love with an illusion of you and not with you. Men want women who accept themselves, know their worth and embrace their flaws with grace and kindness.
When you are not afraid to be imperfect and are willing to expose all of your glorious flaws to a man, you will end up with a much better relationship. You will end up with a man who truly loves and adores the real you ... even when you are in curlers, sans makeup and toting a mini skirt after lunch at Hometown Buffet.
Now, I don't mean that you shouldn't be a mindful lover and partner. What does this mean, exactly? It means that you shouldn't use the excuse of self-acceptance to be a jerk in your relationship. You shouldn't assume, "Well, this is me and he has to accept me as I am!"
You should always be aware of how you act in the relationship and always be a considerate and compassionate partner. Don't be a diva and throw your weight around and think that a quality man who isn't a doormat is going to stick around. However, don't try to fool him either, making him think you are a saint and a trophy wife. Being an attractive woman isn't about hiding your ugly feelings and competing for "best perma-smile!"
An attractive woman is one who owns her Female Fire.
Female Fire is your true feminine essence, your passion for life, your confidence to be yourself, your wild and carefree spirit. Your fire is your sassiness and your boldness; it gives you the freedom to speak your mind and makes you strong enough to share your vulnerability and insecurities with any man. Your Female Fire is what gives you permission to feel highly sexual and never ashamed or inhibited about your sexuality and/or your body. 16 Ways To Feel Sexy In 5 Minutes Or Less
How do you find your Female Fire?
You must stop the kind of thought patterns that will leave you emotionally drained and fearful of love, and you must start listening to your heart and passions. You know that anxious feeling you get when you feel powerless to negativity and you can't stop marinating in it? That hard-to-control feeling will eat at your mental health and bog you down. It will eventually dwindle your Fire and turn you into a "shadow of your best self" and no man wants a shadow creeping up on him.
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