6 Types Of Aggressive Bullies—Are You A Victim?

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There are 6 major types of bullies;physical,verbal, non-verbal,social, sexual and online/cyberbully

Bullying can be described as aggressive behaviour that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength. Often patterns of abusive behaviour becomes evident over time. Victims or targets sometimes downplay the violence and damage to their self esteem, hoping it will just go away or at least get better with time. Bullying and aggressive action rarely stop without some sort of intervention.

Bullying is not strictly a behaviour of the young and not all bullying involves fighting. Bullying, in all forms, is an attempt to steal power from someone else thus empowering the bully. There is no single reason why some people attempt to take advantage of others, but those who intimidate and manipulate often use aggressive tactics.

There doesn't appear to be a single type of person become the target of bullies or the victims of their aggressive attacks. However, you may want to check out the six types of bullies and their methods of intimidation to see if you can recognize when and if you have been the victim of a bully.

The following are the most common traits of bullies:

The Physical Bully

hits, kicks, pushes, spits, and/or intimidates
steals possessions
forces others do things they don't want to do themselves

The Verbal Bully

engages in name calling, humiliating, teasing, and insulting
uses sarcasm and pointed jokes to point out flaws in their targets personality

makes degrading comments about victims dress or appearance

The Non-Verbal Bully

mimics physical activity and/or disabilities of others
makes offensive gestures and facial expressions
turns their head or body away when victim is speaking (giving the cold shoulder)
uses threatening body language (such as standing in the victims personal space, and using postures that make the themselves look physically larger than their victim)

The Social Bully

refuses to talk or acknowledge their victim
spreads rumours or innuendoes about others
makes someone behave or dress in a manner that bully determines
invites others to an event or party in front of victim, while excluding the victim
talks directly to the victim about a social event they have been excluded from

The Sexual Bully

engages in unwanted physical contact
makes vulgar remarks and gestures toward others
calls others by sexual names or remarking on sexual orientation
takes photos or videos of their victim in a compromising situation and threatens to share it

manipulates situations to gain sexual favours

The Cyber-Bully or Technological Bully

sends mean, vulgar or threatening messages using cell phones or through text and instant messaging
texts or forwards private messages to others
sends unflattering photos to others or sexually suggestive photos to the victim
pretends to be someone else to make their victim look bad
intentionally excludes someone from an online group
posts derogatory or inflammatory messages on social media sites (ie: Facebook, YouTube, and MySpace)
impersonates someone else when chatting through instant messaging to gain information or humiliate

Hold Bullies Accountable

While researching my latest book on cyber-bullying, I have found bullies almost never stop their aggressive and abusive behaviour without intervention.

Bullies DO NOT stop bullying; they just get bigger and more devious in their approach.

Empower Yourself!

If you recognize that you have been bullied in the past, empower yourself now. Set boundaries and become more assertive in your interpersonal relationships.

You can do it, I have confidence in you.

http://www.UseEncouragingWords.com a free ebook to assist you in motivating positive action in all communications

http://www.theleftoutchild.com information about the importance of friendship

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.


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