The Sneaky Way To Emotionally Seduce Your Man Daily
Dating while married means emotionally seducing your partner every day with emotional foreplay.
Dating while married isn’t about the occasional “date night.” While it’s good for you and your relationship to get out together, dating while married isn’t so much about dressing up and going out on the town. It is more about maintaining the mindset you had when dating, i.e., when you were laser-beam focused on emotionally seducing the person who became your spouse.
Dating while married is about everyday emotional foreplay, and the reason it is so important for you to continue dating after marriage is that if you don’t, you may find yourself single, doing for another what you should have been doing for your partner all along.
Here are three sneaky ways to emotionally seduce your man daily:
1. Dating is to marriage what foreplay is to sex
Dating is the seduction phase of a relationship, the equivalent of the human mating dance. Every move is designed to seduce the object of your adoration into loving and wanting you as a mate.
In short, once the sparks begin to fly, you intuitively understand that if you’re going to “seal the deal” and get this amazing person to mate with you, you’d better do everything you can to impress, please, and show your best side—not just occasionally, but all day, every day, 24/7.
2. Intuitively engage in emotional seduction through emotional foreplay
Unfortunately, we humans think (at a subconscious level) that just as sexual foreplay is no longer necessary once sex has taken place, put-your-best-foot-forward emotional foreplay is no longer necessary once we’ve sealed the deal with wedding rings.
Courtship was successful, we conclude, and, therefore, there’s no more need for the mating dance. There is a major flaw in that reasoning, however, and it is this: marriage, as divorce statistics readily prove, is not irrevocable.
It is a choice, one we make daily, and therefore, if you want your partner to choose every day to be with you.
3. Do the things that resonate with your partner.
Think about what your partner believes is loving, kind, thoughtful, supportive, positive, and generous. It is those things you do that make your partner feel cherished, appreciated, and special.
It’s putting your best foot forward. It’s keeping your promises and agreements. It’s being responsive to your partner’s needs and wishes. In short, everyday emotional foreplay is doing exactly what you did when dating.
Are you doing that? Do you hold the door for your sweetheart, fill his or her wine glass, and are otherwise thoughtful, kind, and polite? Do you say thanks for the little things? Do you surprise your sweetheart with small but meaningful gifts?
Are you attentive and a good listener? Do you find ways every day to make your sweetheart’s day a little easier or more pleasant? Do you text, email or call just to say hello? If so, then you’re an ace at emotional foreplay.
Or have you gotten lazy, critical, thoughtless, and self-centered? If so, and if you want to keep your relationship, remember this: just as great foreplay is essential to mind-blowing sex, great emotional foreplay is essential to a mind-blowing relationship.
Shela Dean is a relationship coach, retired attorney, and author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket To Total Intimacy.