5 Ways "Nice Guys" Can (FINALLY) Dominate Her Orgasms In Bed

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Women LOVE a "bad boy" in bed.

If you consider yourself a nice guy who deserves hotter sex more often, this could be the most important article you read all year.

It also might upset you a bit and challenge what you think about women and sex. I recommend you check your ego at the door and get your tough skin ready.

Regardless of what your mommy and society taught you, women do NOT want a “nice guy” in bed. They don’t want a guy who always asks what she wants to do or if he’s doing a “good job.” She does NOT want a guy who takes orders like a trained puppy. She wants the leader of the pack.

She wants a strong, confident man who takes control, pins her down, and dominates her orgasms. Most “nice guys” just don’t have the cajones to give her what she craves.

Here are 5 ways to lose the "nice guy" habits and what you can do to REALLY rock her world (without being a jerk):

1. Make her feel really, REALLY sexy.

Look, she wants to be noticed. She wants to feel sexy. She wants to be wanted. Why else do you think she spends so much time getting ready before going out? Most nice guys are too afraid of offending someone that they never give women the kind of attention and compliments they crave.

Telling her that she looks pretty is great, but it’s vague and won’t make her feel sexy or wanted. Saying her that her ass looks irresistibly sexy in that dress and that it’s making you want to do very naughty things — that'll make her feel HOT.

Nice guys are way too polite to give their woman such blunt and sexual compliments, but if you want her to act sexy, you need to start making her feel sexy. So keep giving your girl nice compliments, but make sure you’re giving her naughty ones too!

2. Stop being so damn predictable  it's BORING.

“Bad boys” are fun and exciting because she never knows what they’re going to do — and that’s exciting! Nowhere is this more important than in the bedroom. If you’re in a routine, she’s bored and unsatisfied!

Try undressing her in a new way. Change the way you tease and build her anticipation. Try role playing. Make a sexual bucket list of all the things you both want to try and decide to check one off every week.

Learn the 67 ways to make women come first and use them in different locations, environments, situations, positions, etc.

If you show her that you have plenty of tricks up your sleeve and always bring something new to the bedroom, she’ll always wonder what’s next and she will always crave more.

3. Be more powerful in bed.

In the caveman days, women were attracted to the men who would protect the tribe from enemies and hunt their dinner.

Thankfully we no longer have to go to war and battle lions in order to be attractive to the opposite sex, but women are still biologically attracted to that masculine killer instinct — and the sooner you accept that, the happier both of you will be and the better sex you’ll have.

Now I’m obviously not suggesting that you go picking fights or stop eating anything you haven’t killed with your bare hands, but you do want to develop your masculine aggression, sexualize it, and turn it into raw passion. This means putting her into positions where you have control and lead, such as doggy style. It means giving it to her HARD! It means letting her feel your strength (while still staying safe and respectful of her wishes).

4. Don't be afraid to make some noise.

Women have wild imaginations and once her mind gets going, it’s hard to stop it. If you’re too quiet, she might start to wonder if you’re having fun or not. She might wonder if you spotted something on her body that you don’t like. She might wonder if you’re thinking of someone else.

Stop being quiet and letting her mind wonder towards negative thoughts that push her orgasms further away. Start leading her mind towards exciting and erotic thoughts by using dirty talk to paint sexy pictures in her mind.

Don’t know what to say? Worried you’ll say something stupid? Remember, she wants to feel sexy and desired.

So tell her how sexy she looks and remember, the more specific you are, the better your results. Tell her how sexy her butt looks in that position. Tell her how much you want her. Breathe a little louder, moan more, compliment her body and technique and her arousal will surge.

5. Take the lead.

What turns women on in bed is a man who confidently takes charge and LEADS her to pleasure.

Asking her what position she wants, if you’re doing good, or if she’s almost there yet, are all weak ways of asking her to lead, and that turns her off. Instead, tell her what position to get into. Tell her what to do. Tell her anything that demonstrates you are leading.

Obviously this only works if she believes you’re ultimately going to lead her to pleasure and orgasms.

Learn the 67 ways to make her come first, try your favorite until she's at the brink of orgasm, then stop and tell her she’s not allowed to come yet. This is both teasing and leading and it’s one of the very best ways to make her orgasms much, MUCH stronger … once you finally do decide to let her have it.

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