How To Orgasm: 4 Simple Steps To Your Best Orgasm Ever!

Have you heard the myth that says some people can orgasm through intercourse while others can't? Well, don't believe it. Everyone can learn how to climax during lovemaking; it just takes a little practice and a lot of patience. If you use the following four techniques correctly, you are going to be able to have an orgasm every time you get intimate:

(P.S. These are just a small section of the hot tips, tactics & techniques that you will find in the Bad Girl's Bible site).

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1. Learn to relax. This is the most important factor you need to master if you want to have enjoyable orgasms. You need to understand that there is a vicious cycle that people often fall into when trying to reach orgasm during sex. They get uptight because they are not getting closer to orgasm and this makes it more difficult to actually orgasm.

In fact, they are further away from having an orgasm because this causes extra tension and stress which only makes matters worse and less likely for them to orgasm. Learning to relax and stop caring about having an orgasm may sound counter-intuitive, but it's actually vital if you do want to climax.

So, in order to proactively relax and let go, have sex in a place that makes you feel safe and relaxed, for example your own bedroom. Pamper yourself before you have sex. For example, take a nice, long bath or shower. Then, afterwards, slip into something really comfortable.

A surprisingly powerful way to relax is for your partner to say, "You are not allowed to orgasm tonight" or "I don't want you to orgasm." It works a little like reverse psychology and many people find that this takes just the pressure off them that they need in order to climax.

2. Make foreplay last longer. Both men and women enjoy foreplay, and it ultimately leads to stronger and more powerful orgasms for both sexes. Make sure your partner knows this!

So, how long should foreplay last? Ideally, it should last for at least 20 minutes, but it can last for much longer. By spending up to two hours caressing, kissing, massaging and rubbing your body, you will both be more relaxed and aroused than if foreplay only lasted for three minutes. And being more relaxed and aroused means that reaching orgasm will be far, far easier. You can find incredibly detailed foreplay tips, advice and techniques in this article.

3. Turn off the lights and turn on some music. Turning the lights off when you have sex has a powerful effect. If you are self-conscious about your body, you'll find that having sex in the dark takes away a lot of the pressure.

In the dark, your partner can't see your body, he can't make eye contact with you and he can't see what you are doing. This takes a lot of the anxiety out of sex for many people.

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Listening to music is great for filling the room with sound that drowns out the sounds you and your partner are making. It can also turn you on and add extra eroticism to your sex session if it's a band or artist that puts you in the mood.

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