If you want to know how to have a one night stand and have great sex while you're doing it, then you're in the right place. You see, if you're female, then you know may already know that weird feeling of knowing it's actually really easy to have a one night stand — but — and yes, it's a big but, having a one night stand that's actually enjoyable is a whole different story. By the way, if you want to learn how to talk dirty to turn your man on, then you may want to take a look at this tutorial video.
Today I want to arm you with the knowledge and tools you'll need in order to have hot, enjoyable sex on a one night stand without having to worry about any awkwardness or weirdness.
The Big Why?
The first thing to get straight is figuring out the reasons why you want to have a one night stand in the first place. It could be for many diverse reasons:
- You just feel horny.
- You haven't had sex in a while.
- You'd like to feel wanted and desired by a guy.
- There's a guy you want to sleep with but not date.
- You've never had a one night stand before and it's on your bucket list.
These are just 5 reasons, but at the end of the day your reasons may be different. Now finding out the reasons (or the why) is not to analyze every detail of yourself. It's simply so that you can ensure you have a good time, and more importantly — don't wake up regretting it. The sad thing is that many women seriously regret having a one night stand the morning after.
When It Will Suck
One night stands mostly suck when you feel used and go into it with the wrong intentions. If you're someone that doesn't usually like jumping into bed with a guy until you feel you know him, as well as having at least some kind of emotional attachment, then obviously it's not going to be a whole bunch of fun for you to jump into bed with a total stranger.
Even if it's someone that you know quite well, you may still feel weird about sleeping with him on a one night stand instead of taking things more slowly.
The other time that having a one night stand really sucks is when you think it will help you get the guy. In rare cases it can certainly work, especially in the short term. But if you're serious about starting a relationship with a guy you like, then having a one night stand is going to work against you. In fact, it may make him see you as easy, which is detrimental to any relationship.
Meeting Him & Having Sex
Go Out With A Friend: Probably the best & safest way to have a one night stand is to go out with a friend in search of guys for a one night stand. Not only is it more fun having a one-night-stand-buddy, especially when getting ready, it also means that she can make sure you don't get too drunk or worse — drugged.
Online Dating: Another option is online dating. There are so many sites out there like Plenty Of Fish and Match — to apps like Tinder and Badoo, that there is a near endless supply of guys to choose from.
Your Place Or His: The last thing to say on how to have a one night stand that is safe and fun is to find out where you are going to be having sex ahead of time. In general it's always best to go back to yours if possible, especially if you have roommates. This is in case any funny business happens, so you can alert them to help you out. If you're living on your own, or going back to his place, then make sure to tell someone exactly where you're going and when you'll next be in touch.
Time To Experiment & Have Some Fun
Once you are somewhere where you can start having sex and actually begin your one night stand, then it's time to start trying new sex techniques and positions. Here are a few of my most popular sex techniques.
(P.S. If you want to learn the best blowjob tips and techniques to use on a guy, you'll find them in this instructional video.)
Ballistic BJ: Most blow jobs follow the same pattern — simply bobbing your head up and down taking him into and out of your mouth until he comes. That's not very exciting, so why not triple the pleasure with a 'ballistic' bj. Here's how:
Grab him with one hand while also taking him into your mouth. You can actually masturbate him with your free hand. While doing this, take your other hand and massage his testicles...just remember not to use too much pressure!
Doggy & Hand: One complaint many women have on one night stands is that they have a really hard time reaching orgasm for the simple reason that they just don't know the guy they are having sex with. That's where the Doggy & Hand position comes in!
All you are going to be doing is having sex in the regular doggystyle position, ideally with your chest on the bed (don't rest on your hands). Now you can use one of your hands to start rubbing your clitoris while your man is penetrating you, helping yourself to orgasm.
One Dirty Mouth: One night stands are the perfect place to try new things — so if you've never tried dirty talking before, it's a great time to give it a shot. If you want to learn the best examples, phrases and techniques to talk dirty to your man, then check out this tutorial video on talking dirty.
More one night stand advice on YourTango:
- Can You Make A One Night Stand Go The Distance?
- 8 Ways To Avoid One-Night Stand Awkwardness
- Sex Positions: Everything You Need To Know