Learning how to flirt with a guy properly can be tricky. If you really like him, then you may be a little nervous, shy or even awkward about it, which can make it harder to do effectively. But don't worry! This tutorial will show you exactly how to do it in a smooth, 'breezy', fun way. And I'm gonna give you some killer examples too! (P.S. If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques to use when you flirt with him, then you’ll find them in this powerful video)
The Truth About Learning To Flirt That Nobody Wants You To Know
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While others would have you believe that flirting effectively is some kind of super difficult science that you either magically understand or not...it's a lot simpler than that. In truth: flirting is the art of saying something mean while meaning something nice.
In other words it's the art of saying something mean that you actually intend to be a compliment. So flirting is a very subtle, indirect and fun way of letting a guy know that you like him without actually saying, "Hey, I like you a lot".
Think About How Puppies Do It...Seriously
I know that it may sound a little weird when you read it first, but puppies are the masters of flirting. Besides eating and sleeping, pretty much all they do is have fun and play fight with each other. This playful, fun attitude is exactly the kind of mindset you need to display when flirting with a guy.
If you're serious or worse, grumpy, when you're around him, he's going to get bored pretty quickly. But if you are just having fun and not taking anything too seriously, you'll notice that not only is it easier to talk to him, but that it's super attractive to your man too! This is something that I talk about a lot in the dirty talking video.
Tease Him Like You'd Tease Your Little Brother
Ok, so we have covered what flirting actually is and the attitude you need to have when flirting with a guy. Now it's time to learn some examples and techniques so you can properly learn how to flirt with a guy you like. One great way is to treat him like your little brother.
Now, I don't mean you should rub his knee when he hurts it or get him ready for school. Instead you should take the role of the 'mean' older sister. Teasing him about some of his interests, hobbies or even sports teams is a great way to flirt with him and have fun. Here are a few examples:
- "So you like the New York Mets, huh? That must be tough!"
- "You watch Family Guy? Cool! I used to watch it too...when I was 12."
- "I don't think I've ever met a guy whose favorite sport was tennis...I'm guessing you were afraid of contact sports."
Remember when you say these kinds of things to your man, you're supposed to be flirting with him! They may sound like insults when you read them here but they're not! Make sure that you say them in a playful tone and with a playful smile.
One final tip on teasing is this important rule: tease the general, not the specific
That is that you should try to only tease general things, like the state he's from (general), not the house he lived in (specific). Another example would be teasing him about the company he works for (general), not his specific role in that company (specific).
Don't Go Overboard: Flirting Suicide
When you're learning how to flirt with a guy you like, you'll notice that when you flirt just a little with him, you get great results. Because of this, many women think that if a little worked well, more will work better. Flirting doesn't work like this. Too much flirting will just make you look immature and annoying.
Flirting should be treated as the spice, not the main course. So pepper it into your conversations with guys you like. A little here, a little there. How will you know if you go overboard with flirting? It's simple. You need to watch and gauge your man's reactions to it. If he seems to like it, then try using it a little more. If he seems turned off by it, then tone it back.
Some More Killer Flirting Examples
Ok, so by now, you should have a good idea of how to flirt with a guy you like to attract him. How about some examples, Sean? No problem. Here are a few great examples. Just make sure to adapt them to suit you and your personality:
- "So, why did you choose those shoes? Weren't there nicer ones in the shop?" (make sure to say it with a mischievous smile)
- "Boy, you'd be like the perfect guy...if you didn't suck so bad at beer pong!" (or Scrabble or Life or whatever is most appropriate to the situation).
- "Did your mom accidentally drop you on your head as a kid?" (when he says something stupid or weird)
Don't Forget Kids: Flirting Is Supposed To Be Fun
I can't say this enough. Flirting is supposed to be fun. When you say something flirty to your man, you need to make sure you have at least a mischievous grin on your face, so that he knows you are just flirting with him.
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