Learning how to be dominant in the bedroom is something that I think everyone should learn. While it's not one of the usual techniques that I teach in the Bad Girl's Bible, it can help to expand your horizons in the bedroom and help to give you more ideas as to what's possible with your man.
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With this in mind, I want to give you 4 tips on how to be more dominant in the bedroom with your man. I'm going to start easy and then progress to tips that take a bit more effort and courage to try
There Is Both A Physical & Mental Aspect
The first thing that comes to most people's minds when they think about being dominant in the bedroom is usually whips & chains.
This is certainly a whole bucket-o'-fun when dominating your partner, but it's not always necessary and is on the extreme side of domination. There are much more subtle and sometimes more powerful ways to be dominant over your partner.
These range from simply saying something subtle to him like, "I really like it when you do things for me", to being a bit more aggressive by saying something like, "I'm going to decide when you get to orgasm".
But that's just the verbal aspect of being dominant. There is also the physical aspect. This can be something small like giving him some soft, subtle spanks during sex or it can be on the more extreme end, like insisting on woman-on-top sex positions only or even giving him a very dominant blowjob. Speaking of which, if you are looking for my best advice on how to give your man a great blowjob, then you should check out this very detailed video tutorial.
Start With A Dominant Sexual Position
Probably the easiest way to introduce being more dominant into the bedroom is through what positions you use during sex. Instead of the usual positions like missionary and doggystyle, where your man is on top and the one in control, try switching to positions where you're on top and calling the shots.
The obvious position that comes to mind for this is cowgirl, where your man is on his back and you are on top of him, straddling him, but there are other great positions for dominating your man too. These include positions like sofa surprise, where your man is sitting down on a sofa, couch or chair and you straddle him.
In this position it's very hard for him to go anywhere and again, you are the one that's in control! Now that we have covered some of the physical things, it's time to learn some of the verbal aspects of dominating your man.
Start To Command
One of the biggest hurdles to dominating your man is that he may start to feel emasculated. If this is the case, then he may try to rebel to try and 'regain control'. The best way to prevent this is to takes things slowly and build up to being more and more dominating. I give you lots of examples of this in the dirty talking video tutorial here.
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