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Before I get to the actual "how to have deep penetrative sex" part, we need to cover some important basics to make sure you fully understand why it can be super pleasurable, but also why sometimes it can be horrible and even painful.
Your Deep Spot & Your Cervix
Towards the back or your vagina is the anterior fornix (your deep spot) which is located right above your cervix. Having it stimulated by your man is obviously super pleasurable during deep penetration sex. But if your man doesn't quite do it right, then he is going to accidentally hit your cervix, which we all know can be incredibly painful and can even ruin sex.
This is probably the most important thing to be aware of during deep penetrative sex. When you or your man change the angle of entry of his penis, then you are going to change the amount of pressure he is putting on your cervix and deep spot.
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You're going to need to do a fair bit of experimentation with your man so that you can both figure out which angles work best...and which he absolutely needs to avoid when going deep inside you!
The Last Bit Of Preparation
The final piece of the puzzle when having deep penetration sex with your man is making sure that you are lubricated enough so that he slides in and out easily. Remember to always use water-based lubricants if you are using silicon rubber condoms, since oil-based lubricants degrade rubber and can cause your condom to tear.
Now let's learn what positions work best for deep penetration...
Deep Penetration Positions
The key with each of these deep penetration sex positions is making sure that you start nice and slowly so that you can let your man know when he's hitting that perfect spot and when he's hurting you. Not keeping him in the loop will make this all a lot less pleasurable for both of you.
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The Jockey: The jockey position is great if you like deep penetrative sex while not being required to do a whole lot. To get set up in the jockey position, you are going to need to lie down on your stomach with your legs straight and together.
Your man will then straddle you from behind while on his knees and enter you. He can adjust the angle of entry by where he puts his knees. He can even change the angle of entry entirely by lying down on top of you. You can also change the angle at which he enters you, by pushing your butt in the air or bringing it closer to the bed.
The Turtle: The Turtle is great if you like deep penetration and your man is not the longest guy in the world. To get into the turtle position, you need to get on your hands and knees. Next you need to bend your knees and bring yourself closer to the bed, then wrap your arms behind your knees and try to pull your whole body in as close as possible to your legs (it's almost like you are trying to make yourself into a little ball).
Your man can then enter you from behind with ease and grab your waist with his hands to pull himself in deeper.
The Anvil: The anvil is the only mildly difficult position to perform if you enjoy deep penetration. You'll start off by lying on your back and raising your legs in the air. Your man will then enter you while on his knees and will lean right over you, pushing your legs right back allowing him to go much deeper inside you. If you are not very flexible, then this position is going to hurt your legs a little bit.
While these 3 positions will give you a great start in learning how to have enjoyable deep penetration sex, it's important to experiment and improvise with them to find exactly what you enjoy the most.
The Last Word On Deep Penetration
The final thing that I have to say on deep penetration sex is that it's not for everybody. Why?
It's simple really: everyone is built differently. Some women can have a very small or unresponsive deep spot. Some women simply prefer G-Spot stimulation, which doesn't require a long penis. And some women prefer clitoral stimulation. However most prefer a combination of all 3. The key is finding out what you and your partner enjoy the most.
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