How To Talk To Your Gay Teen About Sex

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How To Talk To Your Gay Teen About Sex
Time to have the "birds and the birds" talk.

Invincible, proud, determined, excited and waving the rainbow flag. That's often the stereotypical view of a teen that comes out of the closet. On the other hand, they also often feel isolated, afraid, broken and not quite capable of fitting in. Regardless of the perspective, there can be one small, yet very large perception that get's overlooked and leads teens into sexual hot water!

"I'm gay so I don't have to worry about ..." and off they run into their sexual freedom without a thought to what else lurks out their beside them no longer worrying about teen pregnancy!

Blind leading the blind and childhood naïveté are the first words that come to mind when I envision young teens coming into their truth. It's hard enough to come into your pubescent years, let alone come to terms with your sexuality. Now, add to the mix your belief that you're invincible and beyond reproach because the risks of same-sex sex are less risky, and you have a recipie for disaster. On the contrary, it does seem to be that the younger generation of LGBT youth are wearing "rose-colored" glasses that taint their view of "let's play hanky panky!"

As the parent of two teen daughters, my utmost concern is for their safety, which covers a broad spectrum of concerns — driving, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, teen pregnancy, mental abuse, bullying and if and when they should have sex (regardless of their sexual orientation). I feel pretty normal and within my parental right to have my radar attuned to these things. Yet, there is that question of "how do you educate your child about the "in's and out's" same-sex, sex if that opportunity presents itself?" From my perspective, the same way you would address it when your heterosexual child says I want to have sex!" You talk about it.

This may seem a rather daunting and unproductive task for those of you of the heterosexual breed who believe, "my child could never be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender!" Well bless your soul, here's your open invitation to Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). You just might need this support sooner than you think. In fact, (again, this is just my perspective) any parent who is leaving education about sex and sexuality — hetero or homo — in the hands of human sexuality classes in our schools, should have their parental license revoked. Oh wait, you don't have to have a license to have a child but being over the age of 18 and having the right vote, gives you the power to tell me who I can love, sleep with and choose to marry. Something's wrong with this picture, but that's a different story all together. Keep reading ...

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Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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