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13 Things EVERY Independent Woman Must Know To Find Love

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Independent women sometimes struggle to find love in their lives because they put themselves first.
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Dear ranty feminists: Just because you don't "need" a man doesn't mean you can't love one madly.

I'd like to believe that I am the epitome of a strong and independent woman. I fought my way through a male-dominated music industry and became an executive and department head at 23. I owned my own home by 24. I have never needed or borrowed from anyone in my life — not even my parents. At 30, I battled through cancer, and now I am creating a completely new life and career for myself.

Does feminism mean that these women could no longer allow a man to be strong? Does it mean that they couldn't allow themselves to ever be vulnerable? Why can't we have it go both ways? We can be strong, giving, supportive and vulnerable. But to have it all, we must have balance in our life.

If you're a strong and independent woman, you can have love in your life without losing yourself as long as you know and understand the following things:

1. Attracting a strong man doesn't mean dumbing yourself down because the right man will not be scared away by your brain.

2. Ditching your list doesn’t mean lowering your standards.

The most important characteristics in a man can't be found in a minimum height or salary.

3. Being vulnerable doesn't mean you're weak.

It just means you're open and honest with your heart.

4. Being confident in who you are will allow him the space to be who he is: a provider and a protector.

5. Letting him hold the door for you is not a sign that you are lesser than, it's a sign of respect.

6. You don't need him, but you want him and you're not afraid to tell him.


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7. Having your own money doesn't mean you can't receive when he wants to give.

8. Allowing him to take responsibility for you doesn't mean you are not responsible for yourself.

9. Being an equal doesn't mean tearing him down.

10. Accepting love into your life doesn't take away from who you are.

11. Wanting to spend time with someone doesn't make you dependent.

12. Supporting his career doesn't make your career any less important.   


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13. You don't have to abandon your feminist ideals to be a lady.

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This article was originally published at LoveLifeTBD.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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