Ah, the sex-and-run. For some, it's like being the victim of a crime.
Like the hit-and-run, the sex-and-run catches you totally off guard. It often involves alcohol or drug use by one or both parties. It usually happens after dark and much more quickly than you'd ever imagine. One minute you are talking, ignoring anything but the moment, guard down. The next, it's like something creeps up on a girl like The Situation on 'The Jersey Shore.' What Jersey Shore's Sammi & Ronnie Can Teach Us About Love
Of course, men can be victims too. But most who suffer from this phenomenon are females. They are often on first dates with guys who look better after the second martini. Popular locations include dorm rooms, hotel rooms, frat houses and penthouses. Indeed, this "crime" does not discriminate against age, race, religion, gender, or class.
The actual intercourse can happen when you are really hoping for it or when you are feeling about as sexy as a granny-panty-wearing-woman on her period. The sex is hopefully always consensual, but the consequences never are. You did not agree to a one night stand! You were kind of sort of dating this person, or at least hoping to!
The perpetrator — as your mother could have told you — acted in quite the predictable fashion. He "loved you and left you," or "hit it and quit it." Of course. At best you enjoyed it. At the absolute worst, you are wondering if you have an STD. Maybe you want to know where the damn guy disappeared to, when he left, or how you did not hear him. But don't get too stressed about the latter. Most men who commit the sex-and-run are repeat offenders.
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