6 Kiiiiinky Ways To Explore The Softer Side Of Bondage

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Shake things up and try something new.

Are you overly stressed and spend all day making decisions? Feel like you have to stay in control or everything around you will crumble? Do you long for an erotic escape from the demands of your daily life? Yes? Honey, it may be time you tried bringing a little light bondage into your love life.

Bondage is usually associated with rough, kinky sex. But there is a softer side of bondage that can be an amazing addition to the sex life you already enjoy. No matter what shade of kinky you are, light bondage can be a pleasurable part of passionate sex. If you have never tried bondage before, it may be time to give yourself over to the pleasures of being erotically restrained.

Light bondage is all about simple erotic restraint. No crazy ropes, no fancy knots, and certainly no acrobatic positions are required for light bondage. You simply get comfortable in bed, allow your lover to restrain your wrists, and then relax as your lover pleasures you.

The bondage denies you the ability to touch your lover or give back in any way, so you are forced to relax into receiving sensation. Think about it like going to a fancy restaurant where all your needs are taken care of. You don't need to jump up and help cook the meal, so you get to relax and dine, enjoying each bite and every sip.

Light bondage is your invitation to completely relax and receive erotic stimulation, a getaway that so many women need in their busy lives. Here's how to get started.

1. Ditch the handcuffs.

Handcuffs are not the best choice for exploring light bondage. They are cold, heavy and rough on your skin. Instead, opt for a more sensually pleasing option. Neckties can work well for an impromptu light bondage scene, but stay away from silk scarves.

Knots in silk scarves can be hard to untie, and you don't want to ruin a good sexual encounter by having to cut your way out of your favorite scarves. The best option for light bondage is satin bondage ties designed specifically for erotic bondage.

2. Talk to your lover about your desires.

Before you slip into light bondage, have conversations with your lover so you are both on the same page. Tell him exactly what you want (desires) and what you don't want to happen (boundaries). Naming your specific desires and boundaries sets you up for a successful sexual encounter.

You may request a full body massage followed by long and luxurious oral sex. You may tell him that you want lots of G-spot stimulation followed by intercourse, but tell him anal is off the table for the night. By naming both your desires and your boundaries you will be able to relax into the experience without having to worry about what is coming next.

3. Surrender yourself completely.

Think of light bondage as a mini vacation from your stressed out life. When you allow your lover to put you in light bondage and then tease, arouse and pleasure you, you are giving up your control and power for a brief period of time. You are trusting your lover to take care of you.

Give yourself the gift of fully surrendering to the experience. Relax and release yourself from your to-do lists, from the need to stay in control. For just this moment, you are just an erotic being, tethered and ready to be taken on a journey of sensation. Give yourself over to your lover completely and you will allow yourself to go to new heights of pleasure.

Embrace the freedom of having nowhere to go, nothing to do, and no decisions to make. Your only job is to focus on the pleasure your lover is offering you. Can you handle it?

4. Add a blindfold to the mix.

If you are struggling to get out of your head and focus on pleasure, it may be time to add a blindfold to your light bondage explorations. Bondage takes away your ability to move and react, leaving you to simply respond to your lover's touch. A blindfold denies you visual input, which magically turns off your analytic brain and suspends you in the world of pure sensation.

The combination of light bondage and a blindfold can be a powerful way to catapult you into the erotic experience. For many women, a blindfold and light bondage is the best way to turn off their thinking brain so they can focus entirely on arousal.

5. Switch roles.

Even if you love being put in light bondage and whisked away on a journey of sensation, make sure to switch roles every once in awhile. It can be equally arousing and fun to be the one in control, and you'll both discover new parts of yourselves when you switch it up.

So every now and then, put your man in light bondage and take him on a mind-blowing trip of arousal. Enjoy the view from above as you watch him squirm and melt in your hands. Tease him and extend his arousal by bringing him to the edge of climax and then backing away. Make him beg for release and let yourself feel like the powerful sexual woman you are!

6. Explore your fantasies.

After a few sessions of exploring light bondage, you will have discovered new information about your turn-ons and desires. Have an intimate conversation with your lover, investigating what your favorite parts of the experience are and what you want to do more of. Do you want to amp up the power exchange element?

Try out new positions for bondage. Explore role-playing where bondage has a central part of the story. One great way to explore your bondage fantasies is through erotica. Grab your copy of erotica and read it out loud to one another, highlighting your favorite parts.

Explore your fantasies together and decide what you want to explore next. Let each erotic encounter take you deeper into your intimacy together, and propel you toward new erotic highs.

 

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