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Four Tips To Shake Up Your Sex Life!

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Four Tips To Shake Up Your Sex Life!
It's time to have an affair with yourself!

In some ways, nothing much has changed for women when it comes to sexuality. We still box it up instead of integrating sexuality fully into our lives. We have so many misconceptions about what it is to attract love, lovers and hot steamy sex into our lives.

So many of us still believe that it is the our lovers that bring sex to us, instead of the other way around. We think that someone else is going to light our fire. The fact is that if we keep waiting for the knight in shining armour to arrive we may never leave the castle.

The cold hard truth is that sexiness starts within us - and if we allow can enter all the parts of our lives. Once we can connect to that source within ourselves, we will be able to splash the joy of it onto other people - and that is where the juice lies. We really need to have an affair with ourselves! So how do we get there?

There are so many ways to recharge our own batteries - and I am a master of it. Not only did I share my own story of mid life sexual awakening in my memoir "Shameless", but I coach women from across the country on how to connect their sexuality to their lives every day.

The beginning steps may seem tiresome - but often beginning steps are. Remember we are on a journey to turn that old tired place of disconnection from our bodies to being in a place of self loving, self healing and sexy self empowerment. Let me remind you that we are not doing makeovers, that we are already here. What I am encouraging you to do is to join me in getting sexy and connected from the inside out. And I am going to continue to support you in taking those first few steps in your exploring your own sensual you. I am on a mission to help all of step onto that path of sexy self loving, and turning this year into being the one that brings out a swish to our hips and a kick to our steps.

1. Take five minutes and get naked alone. That’s right. Clear out the house so that you feel safe if you don’t have a private place in your home. Get naked and get comfortable. Put on some music if that helps. Don’t worry – I am not asking you to look yet! I am asking you to simply feel your body. You should be somewhere comfortable – your bed or even a warm bath. Close your eyes and empty your mind. Let your hands wander over your entire body. Feel how beautiful your hair is. Let your hands run over your curves – your breasts – your hips. Pay attention to your body – the texture of your skin. If your own touch is giving you pleasure, you get extra bonus points! Sigh into that feeling of pleasure. Feel your breath. Feel the pleasure that your body can give you just the way it is right now through your own hands. Take the time to feel your body in a conscious way.

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Pamela Madsen

Author, Relationship Coach, Sex Coach, Sex Educator, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner

Shameless is enthralling, hilarious and incredibly courageous. A most heady–and sexy combination. Pamela Madsen is the living, breathing embodiment of the power of pleasure to transform one’s life.”

—Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom

To keep the Shameless Connection, join Pamela's Free Newsletter, and check out her Shameless Community!

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